Anonymous #1 1d

Gotta be a difference or something. Cuz no way all I think of is being pleased and pleasing

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Anonymous #2 22h

This is the kindest thing I’ve been told. For one, thank you for breaking that down to me. I feel like it does describe me the definition. It got to the point that I’m mad at me for feeling this way all the time. Second part of your comment idk how to respond rather than I’ve went through the worst experience a man could go through. (Losing a testicle) and I’ve been like this since.

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Anonymous OP 22h

And I do my best to not let it affect the way I treat others. But it did already and I’ve learned my lesson now.

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Anonymous OP 22h

dude I am SO sorry you went through that, omg. I have a ton of empathy for the relationship between medical / bodily trauma and sexual dysfunction, gotta figure that must be incredibly isolating to deal with the aftermath of sorry if I misinterpreted your post though, I guess I thought that by “needy” I presumed you meant that boundary issues were part of the problem. but either way I’m not here to assume the worst of someone who comes across as totally self-aware

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Anonymous OP 22h

do you think working with a therapist might be useful? fwiw I’m not one of those people who thinks it’s a moral obligation or that it solves everything, but the nice part is that if you find someone easy to talk to who’s good at their job, you can confide in them about this type of stuff without censoring yourself and you don’t have to worry about being judged in bad faith

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Anonymous #2 22h

Thank you thank you, it was long time ago. Then had to deal with someone else right after so it’s a combo of things that lead me here. And you didn’t misinterpret i think. Thank you for not assuming the worst. Genuinely just need to feel a touch from someone else fr that’s what I mean by needy. I’m always wanting someone to just lay a hand on me in that way. I try to be self aware, so thank you for that as well. Feels nice to read that. Maybe we take this to dms?

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Anonymous #2 22h

I feel like speaking about it may help, I just really unsure why I feel this way is what I wanna talk about most. Is that being horny ain’t something I’m just like intentionally doing, it just comes across and it’s hard to get rid of. I’m def worried about being judged. But i don’t think a therapist fully solves it bc i want a real medical reason? If that makes sense? Not just bc my head playing games yk

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Anonymous OP 22h

Oof the downvote hurts but I get it I guess

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Anonymous OP 22h

I hear that, extra difficult to heal from one major hardship when it’s compounded by another in rapid succession. tbh I would feel inappropriate DMing with you about this stuff or going too into depth just because I’m older than most of the userbase on here 😬 sorry bout it, just trying to uphold healthy boundaries myself, yknow

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Anonymous #2 22h

Thanks for the honesty I take no offense. I appreciate the words you given me. No matter your age it’s appreciated greatly. And I hear you about holding your boundaries so don’t trip plz! This was more than helpful and kinda cheered me up a bit. Yea having to deal with major pain in rapid succession sucked. But imma move past it sooner or later.

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Anonymous OP 22h

oh and the downvote wasn’t from me, I wanna make that clear 😭 therapy is helpful for that in particular imo, getting to the root causes of why your brain behaves certain ways—guided introspection with nonjudgmental feedback and whatnot. and most clinics would have you work with a therapist and a psychiatrist simultaneously, so the psychiatrist handles the more medical / diagnostic side of things

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Anonymous #2 22h

Thank goodness it wasn’t you cuz I was gonna be like wtffff 😭😭😭 And I think for me having the attention all about me irl is not my thing and that’s something I know it’s hard for me to deal with. But I think with what you’re saying imma have to get out this shell and just try it.

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Anonymous OP 22h

like, to be clear, a lot of psychiatric diagnoses are still ultimately “physical” in nature, whether it’s an issue of brain chemicals, synaptic misfiring, conditioned response etc—all of that is still “medical”. there definitely Are therapists & psychiatrists with “it’s all in your head bro”-ass approaches but if you end up with someone like that then you just gotta switch clinicians lol

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Anonymous #2 22h

You’re mad smart, thank you for all of the insight you given me. It won’t go to waste I promise.

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Anonymous OP 21h

thanks, glad to hear my yapping was worthwhile. I think even just the fact that you wanna open up about it and figure out the cause for something that’s troubling you means you’re off to a good start, I believe in you 🫡

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Anonymous #2 21h

Thank you yo genuinely ❤️. I wanna try and figure it out cuz I wanna change

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