Anonymous OP 5w

But my gf keeps trying to “take care” of me and I know it sounds so selfish to not want her to, but it’s getting to the point where she’s trying so hard to take care of me that it’s putting a lot of pressure on me to instantly be perfect over night. Which isn’t going to happen.

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Anonymous OP 5w

She’s helped me quit gambling and reckless spending and I’m grateful for that; but those addictions took time to heal and get over. But now it’s like she’s constantly trying to “make me a better person”, but that’s not really the issue. The issue is that she’s doing it so much that if I don’t meet her expectations, she gets on me about it.

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Anonymous OP 5w

And no, it’s not shit like “not doing the dishes” or “not cleaning the house”, because I contributed to those. The issue is whenever I do something small. Like if I ate healthy that whole weak and when I eat a donut she’ll get on me about it. Or when I spend an hour or two playing videogames, the whole time she’ll complain about how I could be doing “better” things.

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Anonymous OP 5w

*week not weak lollll

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Anonymous OP 5w

The issue is, I know she’s trying to make me a better person, but it feels like I just have a second mother who’s trying to control every little thing I do. Then at the end of the day, she keeps saying “I’m not going to help you with shit anymore because I’m getting sick of taking care of you😕.” When I DIDN’T ASK HER TO!

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Anonymous OP 5w

And I’m so sick of feeling like a shitty person because I had a donut or because I forgot to take my medication or because I didn’t get one assignment finished out of the hundreds I have to do.

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Anonymous OP 5w

I know she means well, but I don’t need her to be my mother and I sure as hell hate when she complains about me being a burden and having to “take care of” me.

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Anonymous OP 5w

And the insane thing is, I feel like a shitty person for not wanting her to do this! I feel like I should be grateful that she’s trying to help, but it’s getting to the point where I’m so scared of messing up, not being perfect, to the point where it’s hard to do anything or feel like I can just relax around her.

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Anonymous #1 5w

Oki :3

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