This isn’t an issue with vanity but how you view yourself and your body. Lots of people have successful relationships and workout/maintain their fitness. If you’re unable to balance that, that’s ok, but to blame relationships entirely is weird. Also that weight doesn’t magically stay off because you’re not in a relationship, it’s you working towards it. Your personal goals shouldn’t change just because you’re dating someone
lmfao me being concerned with the way my body looks IS vain of me. like, textbook vanity. i don’t want to gain weight because i wasn’t happy with the way i looked or felt at the weight i started at, and i don’t want to undo the progress i’ve made. i’m “blaming” relationships because, again, i know relationship weight is a common phenomenon. saying i’m not going to date because i don’t want to re-gain the weight i lost is literallyyyyyyyyy just me being dramatic on purpose for humor.