Anonymous averagewhiskeyconsumer 1d

Cuz they didn’t mention any of the parts of a relationship that are innate, they only specified the differences from traditional relationships

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Anonymous #3 1d

most people dont like the idea of separate bedrooms 😭😭❗️ i wish it was more normalized fr

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Anonymous OP 1d

People like to sleep together and be close to their partner. You want a glorified roommate.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Fr like I still need my own personal space sometimes… and I’d like to have my own room to decorate for my own tastes instead of trying to compromise on something that we might not even like a lot…

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Anonymous #6 1d

You realize you can still sleep with your partner if you have separate bedrooms right? You’d just have two places to choose from instead of just one

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Anonymous #7 1d

What

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Anonymous #6 1d

everybodys different man. im an extremely light sleeper & any movement or noise will immediately wake me up out of deep sleep. ive been in multiple long term relationships & my health has genuinely suffered from the sleep deprivation that comes with sharing a bed- worse grades, insomnia, almost got into a car accident because i felt like a zombie if that makes me weird then so be it, but im not the only person who thinks this way

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Anonymous OP 1d

You’re real asf op dw

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The point of a relationship is to love each other not share a bedroom bffr

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

thank you sweetie pie

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Anonymous OP 1d

I’m the same way w sleeping any minor distraction will keep me awake for hours

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Anonymous #2 1d

real

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Anonymous #2 1d

what 😭😭? not everybody wants the same relationship bro. all of these things work for me personally, and i dont really see how any of this is negative? someones character is also clearly important, but this post was about my ideal RELATIONSHIP dynamic, not my ideal partner

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Anonymous #2 1d

Yk this post isn’t literally everything in the relationship right? Like they will still go on dates and love each other

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Just from my perspective it sounds like roommates. I don’t have a problem with it, just what it came across as

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Anonymous averagewhiskeyconsumer 1d

If you read the post without the context of this being a relationship then that makes sense

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Even as a relationship it comes off that way to me, but I understand everyone has different wants and needs. The separate bedrooms is something I couldn’t do

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Anonymous averagewhiskeyconsumer 1d

You wouldn’t be able to love someone if you can’t sleep in their bed?

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Bros sitting here harping on someone who wants a wife and not a roommate. Let the guy have his preference

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

I just wouldn’t be with someone like that. I’d want to marry someone who’s shares my ideals like everyone else

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Anonymous averagewhiskeyconsumer 1d

Well yeah but roommates don’t go on dates and celebrate their anniversary and make love and cook for each other and propose yk?

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Anonymous #2 1d

*** i think everything i said was good and will keep a relationship more stable & cohesive, but everybodys different and wants different things what would be an ideal relationship for you? (rephrased and edited my original comment to be more clear)

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Again I wouldn’t be with someone like that, I’m just telling you my preferences and ideals

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Anonymous averagewhiskeyconsumer 1d

I don’t care about your preferences brother you said this was roommates and I said no

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Yes we’re both expressing opinions. That’s how talking works. I’m not too sure why you’re going on about mine when I said it’s fine to have differing opinions

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Anonymous averagewhiskeyconsumer 1d

That’s like if I said my opinion was that 1x1=2

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Not really tho. I’ve had friends that have went on platonic dates before, have slept together and done most of those things. Both opinions are valid. I’m not sure why you’re trying to invalidate mine

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Anonymous OP 1d

it reads like upper middle class suburban america personified, all emphasis on the ways in which you stay separate i think what you’re describing is closer to a mutually beneficial partnership with a focus on outward appearances than a personal relationship but yeah, there are tons of people who would love this kind of thing. i just hope they stay far away from me because imo it is antithetical to growing together as one and (for me) antithetical to love itself

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Anonymous averagewhiskeyconsumer 1d

Yes because your assumption is that a relationship is defined by what you do and not how you feel

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Dude hates that other people can respectfully disagree, let it go bro 😭

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Anonymous #2 1d

What part of love hinges on sharing a bed?

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

I’m not assuming, I’m telling you what I need from a relationship to pursue it. I’m not sure why you’re upset by me having boundaries and standards

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

I wouldn’t love someone like that because they don’t meet my standards of the relationship. That’s just my own standards

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Anonymous #2 1d

...how is any of this antithetical to love? for me, i feel like when finances are stable, we have our own "mancaves" do decorate as we please, etc etc etc... all of that will minimize arguments and make love easier. just because you want something else doesnt mean my perspective is shallow, or that we cant grow together

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Anonymous averagewhiskeyconsumer 1d

I’m not talking to you anymore

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Jesus you’re rude. Can’t even agree to disagree with them

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Anonymous OP 1d

I never said it was shallow. I’ve clearly said and the other dude. Opinions are fine. Mr Lighter here just can’t respectfully disagree

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Anonymous #8 1d

Why would I they’re incapable of arguing their own point and I don’t care about what they or you have to say

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Anonymous #8 1d

Nobody is talking to you

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

Literally you’re rude

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Anonymous #8 1d

No like literally they weren’t talking to you they were talking to #2

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Anonymous #8 1d

And when whiskey replied to my reply to #2 I wasn’t talking to them so I told them

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Anonymous lightbluehater 1d

I wasn’t arguing a point. I was stating my opinion. I didn’t come here to argue. You might have but I didn’t. I’m not sure why you’re insisting on arguing

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Anonymous #8 1d

i was talking to #2, not you #8

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Anonymous OP 1d

i think that all of the things that the separate cars, high income, separate rooms etc are aiming to fix are actually just a means to make it work with the wrong person i love being alone, but the actual function of being alone (recharging, lowest energy state, taking social mask off, being comfy, doing what i enjoy, not talking) is also fulfilled by being in a room with the right person. there will obv be times where you’ll want to be alone alone, but love to me is when being together IS alone

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Anonymous #2 1d

i think when you’re actually in love with the one who is right for you, there is no need for most of the things in the original post. they’re barriers that you would not need with the right one. you’d be happy dirt poor

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Anonymous #2 1d

the things i posted about are not inherently just a "means to make it work with the wrong person"... what if these are just my preferences? preferences that i would want from every person i get into a relationship with? you seem to be stating a lot of your personal opinions as truths. love doesnt just look one way, not everyone is you. and once again, you can disagree and thats fine. but saying that what i said is antithetical to love itself?? is a little extreme 😭

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