Anonymous #5 9w

That’s not completely true. At least I have some beautiful platonic friends

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Anonymous #5 9w

And if there are feelings, but both people value the friendship enough to look past the feelings, it can be maintained. If a guy just wants to have sex with you, he most likely didn’t value the friendship all that much, but I think a lot of women miss out on the fact that the feelings are real. When guys catch feelings for their girl friends, there’s nothing nefarious about it. It’s hard, people should be more sympathetic about that

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Anonymous #3 9w

why do grown men act like they can’t control their feelings and impulses?

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Anonymous OP 9w

You can control impulses, but controlling feelings is a lot harder

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Anonymous OP 9w

I’ve had woman friends catch feelings for me before. It’s frustrating, but they have real feelings. It sucks on both ends

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Anonymous #7 9w

However, to qualify she needs to be no different from any other friend. Like we should be compatible have similar interests, etc..

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Anonymous #6 9w

we all know how gay friends go 🤣

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Anonymous #3 9w

So ur admitting that yes opposite sex gender friends can and do catch feelings. It’s just a matter of not doing anything about it. OP is saying male friends that won’t even catch feelings tho..

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Anonymous #6 9w

bro its weird to say that straight men just are always gonna want to have sex with their woman friends. thats very weird. its not normal to have a friend knowing you have other intentions. those men are weird and their a plenty of normal men out here who are good friends.

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Anonymous #26 9w

my gay best friend is my ride or die so how does it go?

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Anonymous #32 9w

I’m not saying every straight man wants to fuck their female friend. It’s possible for them to be purely platonic. But at the same time how many marriages and relationships form from people just being friends or aquaintences and evolving into something more. If you think that’s literally impossible you’re being quite fence and immature ngl. Obviously guys who only are friends to smash are bad, no one’s disputing that. This a “I like pancakes, oh so you hate waffles?” ass response 😭

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Anonymous #5 9w

i have a few lesbian friends that i have never had an issue with. all of my straight male friends have developed crushes or ghost me after they do get a gf.

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Anonymous #6 9w

Minor spelling error my whole argument is ruined

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Anonymous #6 9w

It is not a “you like pancakes so you hate waffles”, that saying just gets used for every argument now I guess. You literally insinuated that men naturally are friendly for romantic or sexual reasons. You set yourself up for those responses

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Anonymous #38 9w

As a man I can share that same energy I’m not good looking enough for women to catch feelings or even approach me 😂😂😂😂

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Anonymous #39 9w

read it again you forgot half of each message

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Anonymous #31 9w

Well yes there is a risk of them catching feelings, but that doesn’t mean they always do

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Anonymous OP 9w

Well are you into women? And yeah if they ghost you or leave you then they were never really your friend. Real friends work work past it together

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Anonymous #3 9w

you can’t if you ever want a relationship with trust. it just doesn’t work

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Anonymous #28 9w

always that one mf who ruins the principal of things…

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Anonymous #39 9w

I’m not arguing with someone who can’t read bro this is not the Middle Ages😭💔

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Anonymous #43 9w

I’ve seen it work, but it’s rare. That’s something that one and their partner need to work out between themselves

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Anonymous #32 9w

Cap

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Anonymous #32 9w

Although it’s problematic it’s also simply biologic

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Anonymous #28 9w

No. Can you?

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Anonymous #55 9w

I would be that friend

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Anonymous #51 9w

Don’t make it a biological thing either. It’s just natural its connection. Guys, girls, non binary people. Everyone. Sometimes when people know each other and spend long times with each other feelings develop, it’s not a guy thing it’s a people thing

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Anonymous #32 9w

It can go both ways men aren’t the only ones who want to have sex women are very much sexual beings too let’s not act like they don’t

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Anonymous #62 9w

😭

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Anonymous #55 9w

These are my exact thoughts toward this post as a straight woman myself

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Anonymous #55 9w

Wym men are evil? 😭

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Anonymous #3 9w

In my experience, they are

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Anonymous #55 9w

I think you have a very limited experience then, not saying that there aren’t evil men

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Anonymous #55 9w

Like most straight men are not good people, lack empathy, and barely make good partners. So why the hell would you ever voluntarily want one as a “friend?” Dick, love, and gifts are all they’re really good for. Women and gay men are much more interesting and genuine friends to have

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Anonymous #55 9w

And like, it’s kinda disturbing that you phrased it as “we use men for dick”

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Anonymous #3 9w

There are more bad people out there than good, women included as well. Not many ppl these days have genuine intentions anymore

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Anonymous #55 9w

There are a lot of bad people out there, but this feels like a very sad way to view the world

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Anonymous #3 9w

I think 67% of women can agree w me. Why would u want a man in ur life that isnt giving u love/sex. Most women be doing their own thing and having a man is a bonus

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Anonymous #3 9w

R u a man

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Anonymous #55 9w

Because you know, people are people. I don’t think we’re as different as you think we are. I don’t look at women and go “why should she be in my life if we’re not fucking”, and as a result I have many incredible platonic friendships with women, they are very important to me. And many of these women have other platonic male friends as well. Not saying you NEED guy friends, but you definitely shouldn’t just look at the opposite sex as sex objects either that’s pretty disgusting

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Anonymous #55 9w

This is the type of terrible attitude that a lot of straight men have in the first place. You should be better

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Anonymous #3 9w

U must be one of the few genuine men out there then

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Anonymous #3 9w

U were probably written by a woman

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Anonymous #55 9w

No I came out of a woman just like everyone else. But I do think what informed my view was having female friends from a young age. I think if more people had these connections from a younger age, or really just in general, there would be much more understanding and less disrespect between men and women. I’m sorry you struggle to find good men in your life, but that gives you no right to reduce half of the population to using for sex 🤮

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Anonymous #6 9w

What part is supposed to be hating waffles

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Anonymous #6 9w

Isn’t that just biological?

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Anonymous #3 9w

We probably arent compatible then and thats okay king

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Anonymous #3 9w

Also have u ever considered that personal experiences shape these type of thoughts. If i had different experiences i wouldnt be preachibg this

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Anonymous #55 9w

I know that personal experiences shape these things, I just think the language you and 63 used was pretty awful

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Anonymous #55 9w

And have you ever considered that your personal experience isn’t universal?

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Anonymous #69 9w

Ugh doesnt help that ur #69 in this thread

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Anonymous #55 9w

Damn 🫠

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Anonymous #70 9w

Reason why men be falling for girls because some of yall way too touchy, that’s something ive noticed. Besides that well the only thing left is your male friend wanting to fuck you. Either take the opportunity or cut them off its that simple. Girls do it to so its understandable why but just tell people no. Some girls be too good of a person and too attractive to not have feelings for so yeah, it gets in the way. Friendship is always possible with good boundaries though.

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Anonymous #64 9w

That’s just life gang, biological implies it’s built into our dna.

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Anonymous #55 9w

As dumb as this sounds it’s a good point though, most people do have negative experiences with the opposite sex. But letting that enable you to “use” people is stupid. You’re toxic and got hurt and never healed. Understandably so but with that mindset you should never be mad about using a man.

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Anonymous #3 9w

And neither is yours - considering there are people out there who feel the same way I do while other people agree wu. Agree to disagree , were both right

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Anonymous #3 9w

You can’t really arguw with a personal experience because according to them it’s true. Is it universal? No, but they have given up and decided to live life their way, by using people. Basically she sounds like a incel or loser playboy who says all women suck or don’t really want me.

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Anonymous #15 9w

this is a weird mentality.

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Anonymous #72 9w

They aren’t wrong, you keep your best friends around because you know in some way were either likeable or attractive. Then once you leave your boyfriend you start getting all close to us like its nothing.

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Anonymous #26 9w

can relate 🙋‍♂️

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Anonymous #32 9w

No, it’s not really that weird. It’s biologically logical. That’s how you start relationships, friendship

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Anonymous #80 9w

This is actually true sadly

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Anonymous #70 9w

i refuse to miss out on so many great friendships just because a few select people think that being friends with people of the opposite sex will inherently lead to romance. it’s just simply untrue for me, and if others choose to see the sex that they’re attracted to that way then that’s a them problem tbh

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Anonymous #72 9w

Its not a problem its just how some people function, it doesn’t have to inherently lead to romance but most of the time in peoples experience it doesn’t. Its not unnatural to end up liking a friend. Just know boundaries and how to maintain an actual friendship tho

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Anonymous #85 9w

Just say u can’t keep it in ur pants

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Anonymous #46 9w

Okay then lead that relationship that way and be honest about it from the beginning. It’s fine to want something different but pretending to just want to be friends first is not.

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Anonymous #55 9w

This is not a good mindset. The whole point of this is that OP is desiring healthy platonic relationships with some men, not any or all men, and obviously don’t have many/any at the moment because she is having a hard time finding men able to handle friendships with women. To say that straight men have no purpose in women’s lives other than gifts and sex is actually so toxic. They have place as fathers, friends, brothers, coworkers, etc. and to minimize the use or place of a whole group is wrong

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Thats exactly why she is a loser and can’t complain when other men treat her badly

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Anonymous #19 9w

You can have feelings but understand not to act on them. But also just not true because I’m friends with men that are fairly attractive that I would never consider to date, because good friends doesn’t mean they make good boyfriends.

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Anonymous #19 9w

Attraction always leads to some form of likeability between two people, so yes that is a good point, no one wants to be with someone who is unnattractive

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Anonymous #55 9w

Not everyone is worthy or trust and relationships and straight white cis middle/upper class healthy men can definitely lack experience and sympathy or empathy but suffering doesn’t make someone good, it just makes for more shared experience with others which can help build connections with strangers. But even then you still don’t know what kind of person he is because everyone is an individual and should be judged as such.

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Anonymous #58 9w

…what

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Mother Russia one of the GOATs of yikyak for real. I’m putting you in the hall of fame with strawberry hair

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Anonymous #46 9w

Hmmm… i would rather have a guy best friend who cant keep his hands off me. Lol we get along great, then we like each other. Win win.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Then you don’t find them attractive. Simple. If you find them attractive it’s different. Ur confusing conventional attractiveness to what YOU find attractive

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Anonymous #86 9w

They are literally designed to fuck Quite literally. There is men and women existing. Literally every single aspect of both of their bodies is made for the sole purpose of fucking eachother and protecting and feeding the offspring

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Anonymous #84 9w

But if we just stay friends that’s great too.

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Anonymous #55 9w

I’ve had so many bad experiences with men and I’m not one to trust strangers by any means, but I still desire to have platonic relationships with men. Because having men as friends is really nice. It provides a very comfortable environment to exist in for me because I know I don’t have to worry about being sexually harassed or assaulted since the guys around me would beat the person up, and I know if I need help moving there are people stronger than me who can help, and I get to hear about

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

This is a really funny angle to look at it lol

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

I’m probably being nitpicky causenI’m sure your guy friends have more to offer, but again it doesn’t feel so different that you value them for functional/manual purposes as opposed to valuing them for sex

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Hey so whos gonna tell her that they cant unlock the part of men being fathers, friends, brothers without sex

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Anonymous #55 9w

A whole different experience in life and different bodies and how they work and get to share that with them in the same way. And they are just people, it’s just more friends and human connection. I’m not going to limit myself and judge others based on a factor they had no control over.

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Anonymous #3 9w

It’s something that I’ve realized since being friends with my bf’s roommates honestly. Like when I’m walking with a group of girls, I’ll get catcalled. But when there are guys in the group, I won’t. Same with guys getting way overly touchy with me. It’s a whole new level of safety that I never experienced before and while it’s men protecting me from other men, it doesn’t mean the good men are any less valuable because bad men exist, if that makes sense. Just some positives I’ve noticed

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Anonymous #85 9w

Because women are humans with human needs and desires. Uhhh..

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Anonymous #87 9w

Lucky you

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Anonymous #48 9w

Really?

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Anonymous #84 9w

I don’t thin it’s true, but it’s not untrue either. I would put it more as, men are more likely to be friends with someone they see as attractive

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Anonymous #88 9w

I think a friend should accept you for who you are not who that want you to be, bit they should help you become the best version of yourself if possible. It’s tough.

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Anonymous #84 9w

But actually this isn’t just men-women. Female friendships and male friendships tend to be in similar levels of attractiveness, or similar looks at least. I would also add that these are generalizations

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Anonymous #3 9w

Sometimes people just need the friendship, I think.

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Anonymous #3 9w

Oh yeah no I get what you mean, I continued on to say they are just people same as everyone else, but I was saying the other purposes and things they provide in relationships specifically for #55 to see they offer more than just what they listed and not that that’s how I view them. I don’t view relationships with people by what they explicitly give me or provide, but I know some other people do.

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Anonymous #3 9w

That’s fair

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Anonymous #84 9w

Yes you’re right. I think, and again I don’t think this is exclusive to men at all, people are A. More naturally drawn to people they find attractive m, and B. Relate more on a subconscious level to people of similar “levels of attractiveness” by conventional standards. But people differ and vary, this is by no means universal

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Anonymous #83 9w

That’s a very good point! I’ve never thought about how women’s level of friendships being more intimate than men’s would give the impression they are into them

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Anonymous #62 9w

Same

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Yeah I saw that later

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Anonymous #19 9w

I mean that they are physically attractive people but I would want to date them because of specific habits or life goals or things that just wouldn’t align with mine. I’m not mixing up personal attraction and conventional attraction.

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Anonymous #19 9w

Dating isn’t just “I find them physically attractive” it has much more to do with their personality and values and beliefs and habits. Like if you believe that if you find someone attractive, you have to be interested in dating them or having a romantic or sexual relationship, then I feel like you’re missing the point of what dating is.

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Anonymous #55 9w

So a guy can’t be a brother to a girl without having sex??? What kind of brothers do you have 💀 unless you’re talking about general reproduction which applies to literally everyone and any kind of relationship and is just an irrelevant comment

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

The og post was NOT about dating. Obviously when u commit to dating someone there are many other facts to consider. They were talking about just catching FEELINGS for your friends. And if u like someone enough to be friends with them, that means there is a specific aspect of their personality that makes you want to be around them (unless your like a fake friend for whatever reason) Now, let’s say you find them attractive as well. That will 100% lead to romantic feelings

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Anonymous #19 9w

100% is crazy

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Anonymous #3 9w

Alright, like 99% then like yk what I mean you’re just missing the point. Enjoying someone’s company and being physically attracted to them are literally the two core traits that lead to non-platonic feelings about someone. How is that hard to understand 💀

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Anonymous #19 9w

No that’s right, but I think people over exaggerate how difficult it is to maintain platonic relationships. I do catch feelings sometimes, but I’ve keep some strong plantonic relationships for years as well, and I don’t have any interest in changing those

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Anonymous #3 9w

It is easy once you decide you have no interest in them from a dating perspective.

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Anonymous #3 9w

Oh yea for sure. I’m just replying to the og post who said she wants to find friends that don’t end up catching feelings and just was explaining why it happens. It’s for sure something that can be controlled tho ur right. The ppl the the replies acting like it can’t be controlled are stupid

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Anonymous #53 9w

Have you ever tried being best friends with a girl? You have guy friends how many of them sleep with there significant others friends, etc

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Anonymous #60 9w

Using people in general is low class you should be benefiting your best friends with kindness maybe that’s why your navigating throw this.

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Anonymous #19 9w

Yeah but you said specifically that you have to find the person specifically physically unattractive to be able to maintain a platonic relationship with the other. I said I can find someone attractive physically but not emotionally and therefore have no romantic feelings towards them, because I don’t have the same emotional standards and expectations for my friends as I do my partners. It’s not just to enjoy their company, it’s that we have to have the same life goals, morals, desires etc.

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Anonymous #19 9w

So friend that is attractive ≠ someone I want to date/have romantic feelings about. That’s the whole point. I’m attracted to women too and yet although I love my friends and they are very pretty, I wouldn’t want to date them either (by “want to date” I mean having a desire for a romantic and/or sexual relationship with).

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

When you catch feelings for someone your not fkn catching feelings on the basis of “does this guy wanna live in the same state as me in 10 years” like what 😭 catching feelings is just having a fkn crush. You think about that stuff when u dead ass wanna date them u don’t stop being crushing on someone because your future jobs are incompatible or some shit like what 😭

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Anonymous #19 9w

You can’t control your feelings but you absolutely can control your actions. And while it’s normal to develop feelings for friends, it’s not inherent like you were claiming, which is what I’m disagreeing with.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Bro, I JUST SAID im not talking about dating and neither was the og commenter. And my standard of physically attractiveness is if you would feel sexual attraction to that person. If your a straight girl you don’t find your girlfriends attractive to YOURSELF, your just thinking they are conventionally attractive

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

When have I been talking about actions? Never once did I say u can’t control your actions, legit read my other replies to other ppl under this thread. The og commenter was talking about “catching feelings” that’s the only thing im referring to, you brought up dating which is not what im talking about

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Anonymous #19 9w

Did I say that? By life goals, I mean literally like if my friend has zero life goals or direction in life I don’t care, but if I was dating them I would loose all feelings. Like there are things you can accept in a friendship that you wouldn’t want to have when in a relationship that just stop romantic feelings.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

This is like the third time you brought up dating, and im getting worried you can’t read or something because ive said about three times im not talking about intending to date someone im ONLY talking about feelings

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Anonymous #19 9w

You see, I explained what I meant when I was talking about dating and why I was saying it. If you want to criticize my reading comprehension, you should work on yours too.

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Anonymous #19 9w

By “feelings” we are talking about romantic or sexual feelings towards a person. By “wanting to date” I am referring to the exact same desire to be with someone romantically or sexually.

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Anonymous #19 9w

And I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again, when I say that my friends are attractive or pretty, I am not saying conventionally, I am saying that I personally find them attractive. If other factors were different I would have been interested in them. However, since those other factors (which I’ve been explaining) are as they are, even though I find them physically attractive, I don’t have romantic feelings for them.

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Anonymous #19 9w

Now does that make sense? Because I don’t know how else to word or explain it to you.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Your parenthesis is legit the definition of wanting to date someone. When you want to date someone you WANT to have a romantic or a sexual relationship with them. What other definition is there? I’m saying those romantic, or sexual feelings CAN most likely exist with friends you find attractive, howber, you may or MAY not want to ACT on it ( which you phrased as wanting to date, or having the desire to which I said so many times is not what im referring to im simply referring to the feeling

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Anonymous #19 9w

It is absolutely possible to find someone physically attractive and be friends with them without developing romantic feelings for the person. My evidence: I do it all the time.

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Anonymous #19 9w

Desire/want is a feeling. Wanting to have a romantic relationship doesn’t mean that you will act on it or think it would work out. It’s just a feeling. How else would you explain what “feelings” for someone are?

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

All im saying. Is that in your scenarios, if you TRULY found someone attractive and TRULY enjoyed their friendship, those feelings would most likely develop. I think you don’t understand what I mean by finding someone attractive. Attraction in this case is sexual attraction. A straight girl can find her girlfriends attractive, not sexually attractive. When you say u “do it all the time” I think you don’t understand what feeling attracted to someone means or, you are friends with ppl u don’t like

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Anonymous #19 9w

Oh good. Please explain to me, a pansexual woman, that I don’t know the difference between being sexually attracted to someone or just find them aesthetically pleasing.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

It’s like crushing on a professor at school or college. You find them attractive and like their personality, but you don’t ACTUALLY want to date them or show romantic interest bc of a million other relevant aspects. But that feeling of having a “crush” is still there. Does that make sense

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Anonymous #19 9w

Are you really so set in your belief that you think I must either be confused about my attraction or not like my friends as people? Like you can’t comprehend my experience being real so I must be wrong about it?

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Anonymous #19 9w

i think you’re revealing a lot about yourself right now and not necessarily about EVERYONE. i’m a lesbian and i find my friends beautiful so by your logic i should be sexually attracted to every one of them but im not bc that’s crazy. so what then?

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Alright. So your saying you find your friends sexually attractive

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Anonymous #65 9w

Bro what. I find all my guy friends conventionally attractive, not sexually attractive. Thinking someone is beautiful and thinking they are sexually attractive is not the same that’s the whole difference im talking about

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Anonymous #19 9w

Yes, not all but yeah, I find some of my friends sexually attractive but don’t have feelings for them. They can be my type physically but not emotionally or like the vibe. Like when people talk about icks. They aren’t saying they don’t like the person but they loose feelings based on small actions. I can be friends with people I enjoy being around and that are physically attractive to me without having those kinds of feelings for them.

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Anonymous #19 9w

Also physical attraction doesn’t just involve wanting sex or sexual desire or anything, there is romance in physical attraction, like dancing in the rain and kissing on the forehead type things. Like physical attraction includes other kinds of intimacy rather than just sex. Not that it’s an important distinction now, but just as a side note.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Ok. In my mind, a guy friend I’ve found sexually attractive in the past, if im hanging out with them and enjoying their company, in that moment I’ll crush on them (or catch feelings). It’s not something I’d want to pursue, or wish I could pursue bc of so many outside reasons I wouldn’t wanna date them, but I consider that moment of “crushing” as catching feelings

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Anonymous #58 9w

so the liver was made for fucking ? the brain? the skeleton? do you know how ignorant you sound rn?

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

To me that seems more like emotional attraction bc your attracted to the intent and act behind dancing in the rain. Physically attraction I believe is almost always just sexual bc it’s just physical traits in someone you find appealing

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Anonymous #86 9w

I think what they meant is biologically, our purpose is to produce offspring. Our liver exists to filter our blood, our blood exists to transport oxygen and keep our organs alive, we keep them alive bc we need to be healthy, we need to be healthy so we have a better chances and time to to find a partner, we find partners to produce kids. Like every science proves all organisms exist to just reproduce. And why? Who knows

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Anonymous #19 9w

OP isn’t talking about like a fleeting moment or like an intrusive feeling, she is talking about a consistent desire. That’s not really catching feelings, that’s like a gust of wind.

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Anonymous #84 9w

All the guys friends I had ALLL OF THEM in my life I asked why don’t you want to be friends with so and so other girls “because they are not cute or hot” seriously even men say they are friends with girls who they find attractive

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Anonymous #36 9w

Hopefully you’re no longer friends with those guys 😭

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Nope not at all

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

It’s a good thing I don’t go looking for female friends. 🤦‍♂️ I’m always straight up about my stuff

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Anonymous #84 9w

Well good thing we’re never gonna be friends. I have no desire to be with you. So congrats. I hope you find your friend

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Anonymous #19 9w

thanks for making it make sense .

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Anonymous OP 9w

Fr. Known mine so long I knew he was gay before he did

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Anonymous #88 9w

That sounds traumatic oml

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Anonymous #95 9w

It is, but sadly it happens almost every time I’ve ever tried to get a male friend. Some of them even slapped my ass, tried to kiss me, pinned me down (I’m 5’4” but also a black belt who’s trained with weapons so they regretted those) but I just wishhhhhh they could have some decency and respect me

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Anonymous #88 9w

This is very odd. I don’t know anyone this happens to, and I know a lot of women. Maybe you need to find a better crowd.

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Anonymous #85 9w

Ew. This is a common thing to happen. Let’s not victim blame here.

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Anonymous #85 9w

I agree with mother Russia but also I can not name a single woman in my life who hasn’t been assaulted/harassed/abused etc by a man. So pls sit down and shut up.

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Anonymous #88 9w

Yeah me too. It’s literally every single woman I know. And 80% of sexual assaults are from someone the victim knows so friends is a very common person to harass/assault/abuse someone.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Exactly! The amount of calls I’ve gotten from my friends bc some dumbass dude. I also study sex crimes (behavioral analysis) and it is typically someone the victim knows which is so so so sad

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Anonymous #62 9w

It doesn’t always work though, some guys will flirt with a goat in a skirt

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Anonymous #86 9w

Yes the skeleton of women was made to be able to have a babies skull pass through the pelvis and a mans upper body strength is for throwing things to protect the offspring Your appeal to ridicule does nothing for me. If you believe in evolution then it logically follows that every part of us only exists to better ensure reproducing and keeping the offspring alive

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Anonymous #86 9w

The liver is also made for fucking. It regulated your hormones levels and serves to metabolize estrogen in men which helps with men’s libido Without the liver you couldn’t have sex hormones also due to the fact that it is involved with your cholesterol

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Anonymous #46 9w

Not too sure why I’m being downvoted for being brutally honest with what I want. Not sure why me being direct and not lying to women is getting me downvoted

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Anonymous #46 9w

Because it’s irrelevant to the topic. OP went : I want a platonic relationship with a man and you went: I don’t want to be your friend because I only want a girlfriend. Cool story, OP wasn’t asking to be your friend and this ain’t about you.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

And he is sharing his personal feelings about the topic There is nothing wrong with this. I would like to hear what he as a man has to say and I feel that your comment is just trying to quell any critical thoughts on the matter

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Anonymous #58 9w

Yet when someone else commented their personal feelings on the topic he was rude about it saying “good thing we’re never gonna be friends” and taking it personally when the other person just commented their opinion. So yeah, hypocritical and disrespectful 👍

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Anonymous #58 9w

Nothing about this is critical thinking, you can have your own opinions and desires for personal relationships. And explaining downvoting isn’t silencing someone or “quelling any critical thoughts”

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Me saying good thing we’re never gonna be friends isn’t rude. It’s me reassuring them not to worry about, because we will never be friends!!!! Just because you’re upset and throwing a tantrum over an opinion doesn’t mean you get to be rude to people

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

I completely agree. So if you are criticizing that sort of behavior, why are you currently doing it? Tell him he is being a piece of shit, but don’t push down on discussion and act as though. “Bro who asked?” “It ain’t that deep bro”

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Anonymous #97 9w

This is very true.

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Anonymous #94 9w

I’ve done this and it still ends the same with the guy💀 some people are just truly that confident than you’ll change your mind eventually. But on the occasion it doesn’t happen, it’s great!

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Anonymous #29 9w

No one said it’s fine for women to be friends with men under false pretenses or that it’s fine to start hitting on them or anything. Personally, as a pansexual woman, I’ve had this experience with men & women but the men are worse bc they force their feelings on me and abandon the relationship all together if I refuse. The girls I still can stay friends with and they don’t do dramatic confessions or try to kiss me out of nowhere or assume I feel the same.

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Anonymous #29 9w

I don’t know if the experience is different for men when women hit on them after being friends, but I’ve had guy friends ghost an entire friend group after he got turned down after months of being close friends with everyone, and nothing of the sort has happened with women in our group. But if you share that experience with women, yeah it sucks and isn’t okay either.

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Anonymous #19 9w

Did you even listen to what #19 said? They said that they didn't find any of their friends sexually attractive. Do you even listen #65, or does everything go straight over your fucking head? I've been seeing all these replies, and chose to pry and step in bc it's not my place to do so, but here I am ig.

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Anonymous #73 9w

I’m number 19. Who the fuck are you replying to

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Anonymous #19 9w

My bad. I meant to respond to #65. I had thought I clicked on their response, but guess not. My bad fr.

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Anonymous #73 9w

Np Ur chill

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