Anonymous #2 1d

I think it’s more a bitter man because he does indeed want to fuck me

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Anonymous OP 1d

Or perhaps I didn’t give him enough context by accident for him to understand

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Anonymous OP 1d

Idk did the guy you went back to fuck you over?

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Anonymous #2 1d

He doesn’t like him because he’s Republican and is busy af. Which I didn’t like but I realize to mature I need to think that men do have busy jobs and I can live by myself.

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Anonymous OP 1d

if I was your friend I wouldn’t like him either and would drop you if you settled for a republican. girl I beg you to stand on business, find a better man.

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Anonymous OP 1d

That second sentence literally makes you sound 12 years old lol but I do think depending on the type of republican that could be a very valid reason for him to have said that. Like if you're going back to an asshole who's hateful just because you don't wanna be single then yeah your friend would be valid

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Anonymous #3 1d

Republicans aren’t all evil I hate the toxic fucking stigma.

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Anonymous #2 1d

I don’t think it makes me sound twelve. It’s something I have to grow on and also not all republicans are hateful. My dad’s the fucking best dad and he’s a Republican. People need to know how to live in a two party country be fucking for real

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Anonymous #2 1d

damn 😭 but yeah, as people we have to accept that we might love someone who’s a bad person and to not let the rose-colored lenses get in the way of staying healthy

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Anonymous OP 1d

Well what are this guys beliefs beyond being a republican? Like morally, where does he stand? Because okay, maybe he’s not “evil,” but political beliefs do matter especially in our current climate and parts of the Republican Party are doing some fucked shit rn. Like is he just “fiscally” conservative, or a full on trump supporter, or what?

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Anonymous #1 1d

I’m talking about this guy to be clear, not your dad. I’m sure your dad’s great, we don’t need to get into that.

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Anonymous #3 1d

Not all republicans are bad people they don’t all follow Trump blindly

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Anonymous OP 1d

So if you could read, you would see the whole part where I asked what type of republican and used the word "if"

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Anonymous OP 1d

I think the framing does make you sound childish lol and you getting all mad right now is overly sensitive

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Anonymous #2 1d

I don’t need to deal with someone who has a rude attitude. I wasn’t ever rude to you.

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Anonymous OP 1d

all but one republican I’ve met has been loudly against my existence. sorry but I’m not privileged enough to ignore their hate or even indifference.

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Anonymous #3 1d

And what part of your existence? Are you bisexual, transsexual, or racist? I’m asking those genuinely

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Anonymous OP 1d

Ah, the three genders. Bisexual, transsexual, and racist.

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Anonymous OP 1d

You literally cursed at me multiple times lol I never had an attitude and I don't have one

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Anonymous #2 1d

Yes I used curses in my texts but I never cursed at you

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Anonymous OP 1d

You insulted me saying that I sound like a 12 year old

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Anonymous #1 1d

Those are usually what Republican stereotypes are against so I’m asking genuinely if it’s one of those

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Anonymous OP 1d

That's not an insult, it is a statement. You sounded childish in saying that and it probably informs why you're so offended but your friend taking issue with you going back to an ex

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Anonymous OP 1d

"Be fucking for real" is grammatically speaking a command lol you did curse at me. And in any case even if you're not cursing at me, being civil then suddenly dropping multiple F bombs is an issue

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Anonymous OP 1d

Well I’m not the one you asked, but for the record: As a bisexual, transsexual disabled man, I have in fact had many republicans tell me my identity is invalid, my relationship is invalid, that I’m disgusting, that I don’t deserve healthcare, and that I’m a burden on society. I have also, yes, met some nice republicans. But I think given the current platform of the Republican Party, it’s natural to have concerns and follow up questions when someone says they’re a republican.

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Anonymous #2 1d

It’s a phrase of exhaustion not a command

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Anonymous #1 1d

Then people should speak them with respect not hurl them as if everyone is a demon

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Anonymous #2 1d

It is an insult no matter if it was a statement

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Anonymous OP 1d

I tried to ask what this guy’s beliefs were in a respectful manner, I apologize if it didn’t come off that way. Can you tell me what his beliefs are? Does your friend have a problem with any specific stances this guy has, or is it just that he’s a republican in general?

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Anonymous OP 1d

Okay whatever I don't even care anymore lol your friend was probably right but best of luck in any case

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Anonymous #1 1d

Honestly I’m like 90% sure that my friend is Republican. Unlike some people I genuinely don’t care what someone’s party is unless they are outwardly trying to hurt someone. He doesn’t care if someone is gay, he isn’t racist, and he doesn’t love trans people but he wouldn’t hurt them. He honestly just thinks we should all live peacefully with everyone and exist as a country. Personally I’m bisexual and he’s never been hateful. He doesn’t agree with Trumps outlandish bs.

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Anonymous OP 1d

"He doesn't love trans people but he wouldn't hurt them" is an insane thing to say in defense of your republican friend lmao I would've just left that out

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Anonymous #2 1d

It’s true though he doesn’t like the concept of a trans person but he wouldn’t wish harm on

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Anonymous #5 1d

There aren’t

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Anonymous #6 1d

Oh I broke it off because I didn’t feel like I was getting the attention I wanted

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Anonymous OP 1d

But really I should just grow from that because really good men are busy men

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Anonymous OP 1d

SOMETIMES but if a guy really messes with you, that doesn’t matter

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Anonymous #6 1d

He wasn’t messing with me though he’s just hella busy so I think thats part of immaturity on me

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Anonymous OP 1d

I mean it’s okay for you to want more quality time and attention in the relationship. If he can’t or won’t give that to you because he’s busy, maybe you’re not the right fit for each other. Doesn’t necessarily mean you’re immature or he’s neglectful. Sometimes your needs are just different.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Hm

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Anonymous #1 1d

I think I want to try it again though because I do really like him. If it doesn’t work out this time I think I’ll just drop it. But I’m going to make an effort to reflect on myself

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Anonymous OP 1d

Also 6 and 1 thank you for actually being kind to me

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Anonymous OP 1d

You’re allow to have that preference on wanting more attention. I felt similar to a FWB so I dropped him. But if you’re willing to negotiate with yourself and you know he will not change for your standards, then go for it. Tho idk I don’t recommend it.

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Anonymous #7 1d

See his job does kill him because he works twelve hours so I honestly don’t mind it’s not like he can change that part

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Anonymous OP 1d

Ngl I’m sure there’s more he can do for you if he valued what you ideally want. But idk your guys dynamic. But maybe both of you guys aren’t looking for something serious?

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Anonymous #7 1d

We are both looking for something serious he only has two days off a week so really I think it’s fine

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Anonymous OP 1d

Well realistically, you’ll probably get 1 day of quality time

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Anonymous #7 1d

Which is fine

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