Anonymous #2 14w

why are we trusting women

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Anonymous #2 14w

I dont mean like that. I just wish i felt comfortable wearing dresses. I wish i liked pink. I wish that when i went to the store i found things i liked instead of just wearing black sweats all the time. It seems so much easier to get a boyfriend if i wasnt like this

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Anonymous #1 14w

Not what i mean at all. I meant looks and hobby wise not that i want to be a mans slave lol

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Anonymous OP 14w

sounds like you wanna amish

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Anonymous #1 14w

Wtf no 😭 i just wish i felt comfortable wearing lipstick and dresses omg

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Anonymous OP 14w

damn u sound smart lets a build a time machine and go back

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Anonymous #1 14w

Troll

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Anonymous OP 14w

im so serious rn

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Anonymous #1 14w

Well youre not listening to a word i say and seem like youre just trying to invalidate me and make me mad

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Anonymous OP 14w

no im tryna build on ur ideas and and build a time machine girl

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Anonymous #1 14w

🙄 im not dumb man just pack it up

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Anonymous OP 14w

OH. Sorry, my b I took it way too deeply 😭😂 If you genuinely don't like pink, you don't like pink, it's just a color preference. If you don't like dresses, you don't like dresses. But if the black sweats aren't bringing you joy, experiment! Hit a consignment or thrift store and try on a bunch of stuff and see what you feel good in/what brings you joy :) And no, being comfortable/confident with yourself makes it easier to get a good bf. Not trying to masquerade as something you're not.

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Anonymous #1 14w

We can't all trust the guy in the tree who whispers wise words through the leaves like you

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Anonymous #2 14w

Sooo true. I just wish the whole store thing worked for me but every time i just end up crying in the dressing room lmao

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Anonymous #2 14w

I dont get what you mean they clearly were twisting my words to make it seem like i was wanting to be someones abused housewife 😭

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Anonymous OP 14w

Can I ask how old you are? Bc a lot of girls struggle w very similar thoughts/issues in a certain age range Also, I said the tree thing to #1 bc bro is obviously a troll 😂

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Anonymous #2 14w

Oh damn i thought you were siding with them 😭 i was like wtf they're clearly making fun of me lol. I am 21 so idk what that tells you. I thought graduating highschool was supposed to get rid of all these thoughts 😔

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Anonymous OP 14w

Oh no, I was still having mental breakdowns in dressing rooms at 23. I'm 25 now, and honestly, ts doesn't ease up until you're 25 lmao Don't worry, what you're grappling with is normal and even if it seems like everyone else has it all figured out, I promise you THEY DO NOT. Everyone is just acting/pretending. It's a competition of who can fake it the best. Then, eventually, it's either not fake anymore, or you genuinely start finding yourself and being proud asf of exactly who you are

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Anonymous #2 14w

Being a unique individual rather than a conformist actually gets you very far in life

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Anonymous #2 14w

This is so helpful thank you 😭 its just hard because if I dont "conform" i will just stop caring. Like I'd wear sweats every day. My genuine desire is to just be comfortable but it seems like everything is appearance based. I honestly dont even want a boyfriend if it means i have to conform no matter how lonely i get. It's just hard to be proud when i know that everyone is looking down on me and i probably wont find a partner because of that. If i could i would legit walk around in a snuggie 😭

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Anonymous OP 14w

If that's what you wanna do, do it. Who cares. Ppl are drawn to ppl who genuinely just do them. If you wanna wear a Snuggie, wear a Snuggie!! Like one of my favorite coworkers is a GORGEOUS fit goddess, but she doesn't gaf and wears sweats or pajamas every day. Ppl love her still. A lot of stuff you think is pressing is really just online, in a school bubble, or only cared about by insufferable pretentious weirdos. Anyone that'd look down on you for dressing comfy sucks and you wouldn't want-

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Anonymous #2 14w

That horrid energy in your life anyways! A lot of guys irl just want a genuine, loving girl they get along with. Only chronically online weirdos, or just straight up porn-addict weirdos care that much about appearances.

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Anonymous #2 14w

Ugh i hate when emotionally intelligent ppl give me wise words 😔 like damn bruh that actually sounds super smart lol. Its so easy to blame lonliness on random things internet told me to blame. But honestly i havent met many ppl who dont care about appearances so i think thats what makes me scared

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