Anonymous #1 9w

I’m going to

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Anonymous #2 9w

telling me I sound like a man & look like a shadow isn’t constructive. I love how you people always act like you know the depths of a relationship from a post.

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Anonymous OP 9w

What does he mean when he says you look like a shadow? Also telling a chick they sound like a man isn’t even that harsh of an insult. That sounds like a lighthearted roast, also have you ever tried roasting him back? So people like to do that.

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Anonymous #2 9w

ur an incel shut the fuck up

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Anonymous #1 9w

I’m really not lol, that’s actually a dynamic in some relationships. Some couples do roast each other, it’s harmless. In his mind he might just think he’s just lightly teasing her but to her this is him “tearing her down” I do agree though if a person is this sensitive they shouldn’t be with someone who cracks little jokes. There’s other reserved dudes who aren’t into doing that kind of stuff

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Anonymous #2 9w

ur acting as if u know this person’s relationship. it’s pretty obvious when someone is joking around and to understand when someone doesn’t find your “jokes” funny. ur doing an insane amount of reaching

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Anonymous #1 9w

I’m just choosing to look at this differently and not just automatically assume the worst. I have the right to ask questions. Just because you just choose to blindly go along with what someone says on the internet doesn’t mean everyone has to. What she described sounds like lighthearted jokes to me. Some girls would laugh and roast someone back while others would look at this as tearing someone down

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Anonymous #2 9w

even IF (big if) he was “joking”, he’s doing it terribly. roasting is only done well if both parties are laughing. if u can’t distinguish that, you’re an unfunny idiot

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Anonymous #1 9w

There’s really no rule to roasting. Roasting is meant to provoke a bit. Maybe he thinks it isn’t this serious. Like I said idk. Maybe he is actually verbally abusive. I hope not

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Anonymous #2 9w

obviously theres no rules but you are HORRIBLE at roasting if all you can come up with is “you look like a man”. u have to have a level of intelligence to be funny, so either way he’s an abusive asshole or a stupid asshole

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Anonymous #1 9w

Hey man like I said personally that insult sounds like lighthearted roasting, now if he was to say things like “you’re worthless” or you know like really take personal digs that’s abusive. I don’t think he’d be dating her if he really thinks she looks like a man

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Anonymous #2 9w

That’s just me using my common sense though

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Anonymous #2 9w

this is an abuse tactic in itself. making you feel bad and as though you’re SO worthless that you can’t do any better. and if you bring it up, chances are they’ll say “i was just joking, you’re so sensitive.” i roast people i love all the time and you KNOW what lines to not cross, u should be tuned to people’s sensitivities or ur simply not funny

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Anonymous #1 9w

Really all she has to do is roast him back, I get what you’re saying that’s definitely a thing but the nature of these jokes come off as lighthearted to me. Sometimes you gotta stand up, you could be right about this but also you could be thinking way too deeply into it. Family members roast each other, couples, best friend etc. Hell I’ve literally heard my gf use this same roast towards her own friend before lol

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Anonymous #2 9w

But when I “roast” him back he gets defensive & angry. so obviously he’s not joking. he “joked” about assaulting me knowing I was assaulted under a yr ago. & calling me a shadow when we’re in an interracial relationship is not okay when I’ve repeatedly told him it makes me uncomfortable. he picks at me but gets his feelings hurt when I do the same so obviously he knows he’s being hurtful

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Anonymous #2 9w

& the thing is he himself has acknowledged he’s done these things I just gave small examples, so respectfully you know nothing.

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Anonymous OP 9w

Oh yeah see now that you gave a more detailed description of your relationship dynamic, i definitely think this is an abusive situation. Definitely get out of this and get far away from him

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