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Just ended my long distance relationship for good now. We were a situationship then she put it in my heads to decide what to do, bc she doesn’t want the sexual aspect of a relationship. May I hear honest words about, if imma bad man for wanting the (e)sex
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honestly no and idk i feel like being in a long distance relationship you’re lowkey signing up for some sexting or esex

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I appreciate the words truly. And yea right? That’s how I felt, If I can’t hug you or squeeze you, then I kinda need something yk? Not trying to seem like it’s owned it anyway cuz it’s not, but it just kinda comes with the grounds? Especially bc she just was so goodlooking

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

it definitely depends how you worded it tho. did u suggest it nicely or kinda like “i need this” “i deserve this” “im owed this” ? genuinely asking no shame

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I described it as needing her. Wanting to be with her, and it would turn into sexual acts naturally. I wouldn’t make her do anything, there were many times were she said no and there was no hesitation to just cuddle her and talk nicely to her, ask her about her day what she liked ain’t like about it. But it would mostly be our fun time together which I thought we both enjoyed. But I would say need her.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Needing her presence

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

not to prude but was it only sexting or would yall do it over ft/call? cause maybe she just started to not really like it or vibe with it. as a girl ive noticed its kinda harder for us to get into that mood or stay in that mood if its over the phone.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Not pruding this is why I came here to ask :) We would call, FaceTime but her connection wasn’t the best most times, so it would be voice calling mostly. I would take care of her, be the voice she falls asleep to yk?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I feel like she came to me many times during it where she wasn’t vibing anymore and I did pretty well to switch the flip Off and go into nurture mode and letting her know she’s valid if she brought that up to me yk? Her reason was the religious, and how it messes with her mental and I respect her for the women she is. So I will never ever knock her for it. I guess I’m wondering if how I think is wrong

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I mean it sounds like she maybe just wasn’t into it as much anymore cause it sounds like you’re a super nice guy and you would care for her, so maybe that’s it. I had a long distance rls and I had to do the same exact thing because I just felt like it wasn’t satisfying me as much anymore and if there’s very slim chances you’ll ever meet or you rarely meet, surprisingly that heavily affects sex drive or motivation to keep something going. i’ve noticed it with my friends LD rls aswell

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