Anonymous #1 1w

That is genuinely the scariest thing ever mentioned #idkhowto

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Anonymous OP 1w

Lmao it’s scary but it becomes so much easier when you actually try it. First time I did I held my breath until I was lightheaded waiting for an answer, then when I was rejected I was like… oh? That’s actually wasn’t bad? It’s disappointing but I’ll live. And moved on.

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Anonymous OP 1w

You could ask someone randomly (because women aren’t normally a security risk for men so you can approach whenever) or you could be friends with someone and just go “hey, would you want to go out for coffee with me for a date?” Or something and just see where it goes

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Anonymous #1 1w

wait fuck u lowk jus saved me.. rejection is so fucking scaryyy to me but ur right shit probs isnt even that deep fr 😭😭😭 ive tried ti make my move but lowk stopped right when i got the guys insta n shit hasnt happened since like im sk scared to message bro 😭😭😭

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Anonymous #1 1w

im lowk the goat of asking ppl to hang out its jus when its romantic my heart literally sinks into my ass

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Anonymous OP 1w

Truly, it’s better to just hear the answer then constantly think about the possibilities if you had taken the chance. Just treat it like a friendship because that’s how dating starts anyway, you’re just trying to get to know each other first!

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Anonymous #1 1w

U r so wise 😭 love getting actual genuine advice on here lol thank you so much! imma try to message him n if i ger rejected fml 🤪

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Anonymous OP 1w

Of course! You got this!

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Anonymous OP 6d

You’ve gotta understand us dudes will talk to a tree if it made the first move. The ball is in your court you’ve got the advantage. Godspeed jit

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Anonymous #2 6d

used to a good bit but since going to college like 3 months ago literally nothing 😭

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Anonymous dark_joker_card38 6d

omg please

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Anonymous OP 6d

Well isn’t not being harassed at school what women have been advocating for? Recently guys are too wary of saying something that might come across as creepy or inappropriate so they say nothing. While this may or may not be the case for you, it’s also important to consider that the rate of which people compliment you is probably not the healthiest thing to think about it.

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Anonymous #2 6d

wait cook

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Anonymous #4 6d

No most of yall wouldnt. Been rejected 5 times by men

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Anonymous #2 6d

Preach bro preach you’re so right

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Anonymous OP 6d

no me too the thought of being close to a man scares me #scaredofmen

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Anonymous #14 6d

Yea go look at an overweight women’s insta post you will see nothing but compliments

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Anonymous #16 6d

why dies everyone think i only got the compliments on insta 😭 im talking abt randomly getting approached compliments not the online ones lol

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Anonymous #16 6d

n also overweight women can be fine asf lmfao

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Anonymous #7 6d

REAL!!

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Anonymous #1 6d

Tried this.. guy left me on read. Gave me 3-letter word response. Than would ignore me some more.. Imma just wait after I graduate😭 ✌🏾

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Anonymous #1 6d

no girl should be chasing a dude 💀

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Anonymous #22 6d

what are you even talking about right now??

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Anonymous #22 6d

ngl imma chase this one hes fine ash idgaf

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Anonymous #21 6d

that means he was just lame ash n couldnt he honest abt not being interested 😭 u can find better babes

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Anonymous #7 6d

ive fumbled like 2 girls already im a flop 😕

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Anonymous #19 6d

bc the first response said to go find a man but honestly if a pretty girl goes out of her way to get with a guy, itll only boost his ego

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Anonymous OP 6d

lmao go for it but don’t feed his ego too much

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Anonymous #20 6d

ykw u right it might be the style 😭 i like to dress up a lot n i rarely wear simple outfits so Perhaps that is the reason

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Anonymous #22 6d

If a man is attractive I’ll let him know. I’m not gonna not compliment friends and people because I think it will go to their head. Someone with too big of an ego will naturally get their shit checked at some point, I’m not going to be afraid of pursuing a man because of how he may potentially perceive himself in the future

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Anonymous #22 6d

Fr

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Anonymous #11 6d

What u mean

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Anonymous #2 6d

Idk I think about this sometimes, but then I also remember that other girls are getting hit on all the time. Like I’ll go out with friends and they’ll have guys approach them. I feel like I’m rarely approached by guys even though I get such high praises from women

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Anonymous #30 6d

THIS IS EXACTLY ME n i be so confused cuz like what is the reason 😭

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Anonymous OP 6d

you haven’t fumbled me tho 😝😝

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Anonymous #31 6d

waitttt.. #HML

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Anonymous #20 5d

dude YES. after my confidence went up, the random men walking up to me dropped by like 90%. personally so thankful

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Anonymous #24 5d

Oh bother

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Anonymous OP 5d

So basically, imagine if you’re someone who’s been single for a long time and you’re wondering why. Could be for a million reasons why, but to simplify them, you could break it down into “it’s something that I’m doing” or “something everyone else is doing” It’s much easier to place the blame on others. But it’s a much easier story to tell yourself “people just can’t handle my confidence” vs “maybe I need to put myself out there more”. One forces accountability, the other keeps you the same

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Anonymous OP 5d

I don’t know you or your story, so I don’t want to make assumptions based on your life. I just wanted to point out that you came in here asking what’s wrong and looking for advice, and a lot of the advice was “oh there’s nothing wrong you’re actually perfect” Which is definitely more comforting, but your life isn’t going to change with that type of mindset

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Anonymous #1 5d

there’s nothing wrong with complimenting someone, i’m saying if you’re going out of your way to quite literally chase a man, that man’s ego WILL get boosted and he’ll think of you as desperate 🤷‍♀️

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