Anonymous #1 2w

well no because women can be disappointing too😭

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Anonymous #2 2w

I’m sorry but I’ve seen some people looking for like a fanfic millionaire who can read their mind and basically has superpowers 💀 that’s just not happening

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Anonymous #2 2w

you didn’t get the point of this post if that’s the conclusion you came to.

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Anonymous #4 2w

Also, if you assume all men will be disappointing because some men are you’re undercutting the ones that aren’t. I have high expectations & I’m ok if men can’t live up to them. I will find one that does.

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Anonymous #4 2w

who said anything about lackluster people? the whole point is that people aren’t fairytales and expecting them to be perfect is what causes the anger. even the man you choose who is good and does what you want, he’s not gonna meet every need or want 100% and expecting that from anybody is what causes that anger. the whole point is to let go of the fairytale to REDUCE the anger. if you don’t idealize men then this post simply wasn’t for you…?😭

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Anonymous #5 2w

Right??? That’s how I read it!

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Anonymous #5 2w

“hate to potentially sound like a pick me” and you got that conclusion?😭

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Anonymous OP 2w

lol. You can still be a girl and advocate for guys not maturing. 🙃

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Anonymous #5 2w

again, how did you get to the conclusion of advocating for men not maturing? because i said you shouldn’t expect a [fairytale] so you can reduce you anger and stress? that’s not advocating for men

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Anonymous OP 2w

Most girls don’t live in fairytales. Most guys do. The want a traditional house wife that cooks and cleans who also works full time so they don’t feel used. So yeah you’re kinda indirectly advocating for men not stepping up

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Anonymous #5 2w

every man you meet wants that?💀 and why is that your response of all things that you could’ve said to what i said? i’m not indirectly advocating for that. whatever is going on in your brain decided to come to that conclusion. idealizing people ≠ lowering standards and letting people be immature around you

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Anonymous OP 2w

Saying girls live in a fairytale cause they have standards is delusional.

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Anonymous OP 2w

But you’re right you sound like a TOTAL PICK ME. lol

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Anonymous #5 2w

And you knew in advance you’re wrong cause you knew you had to preface your statement that way

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Anonymous #5 2w

fairytale ≠ having standards. not living in a fairytale ≠ having no standards. if you are not a woman who lives in fairytale instead of the reality of human beings in general then this post isn’t for you. why are you looking to be upset?😭 did i hit a nerve?

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Anonymous OP 2w

No you just sound like a female simp. lol

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Anonymous #5 2w

and you sound like you just can’t read and that’s why you’re so upset😭 since when did calling out women in live in a fantasy world = “that’s not true. it’s actually men who do” like those are two different sentences. there are women who live in a fantasy world and men who live in a fantasy world. that just wasn’t the topic right now and you’re taking it like i’m disregarding it too. you’re looking to be angry and it’s so unfortunate that you. i hope you feel better like genuinely

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Anonymous OP 2w

Dude. Your own quote says not to sound like a pick me. Then proceeds to die on a false hill that makes you sound like a pick me. 😂

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Anonymous #5 2w

well no i said that because people like you exist where any remote criticism for women means being a pick me and letting men get away with something but hey you can’t please everybody. disclaimer or no disclaimer😭

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Anonymous OP 2w

Hmm I wonder why a vast majority of females are so dissatisfied in relationships today and well because so many men are low quality and don’t mature. So many girlfriends and wives being treated like mothers and you’re over here knowingly simping. Again because MOST girls aren’t in fairytales.

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Anonymous #6 2w

Cause that takes forward thinking and effort. And it’s not the fastest way to get their 🌭 wet. lol

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Anonymous #5 2w

idk if i’d completely write it off as that. you’re acting like what i said is a blanket statement for every single dating scenario. like not even on any condescending petty shit, this is why reading is so important. i’m talking specifically to women who have a fairytale expectation in dating. wanted to be treated well ≠ fairytale. you can be treated well and still have moments where you’re disappointed hurt or angry about what your partner did. i wouldn’t say a vast majority simply because -

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Anonymous OP 2w

- dating in itself isn’t going to be the most fun process. you’re going to have heartbreak and bad experiences etc. that’s just life and dating regardless of gender. i’m referring to the fairytale mindset where one expects everything to be peaches and cream so the moment something that they didn’t want to happens, they take it deeper than what it really is. when in reality it’s just a flawed human being a flawed human. no man or woman is going to be you want everything without fault

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Anonymous OP 2w

Your post didn’t come across that way. It came across as generalizing females living in a fairytale 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Anonymous OP 2w

Well yeah. This is obviously the case. But I’ll be honest that’s not how your post came off.

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Anonymous #5 2w

i shouldn’t have to walk you through every single point and what i mean in order for you to get it… obviously every women doesn’t live in a fantasy world but there is a group of women out there who do hence why i said “women” if it doesn’t apply to you then you leave it alone and don’t resort to name calling because you can’t comprehend something to critical think it through🫩

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Anonymous #5 2w

literally just looked to be offended and argue rather than have a basic conversation

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Anonymous OP 2w

You should be more careful with your words and write what you mean and not expect people to read your anon mind lol. If you write a generalized statement don’t be surprised like many in this thread did that it’s taken generally 😂😂

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Anonymous #6 2w

because people are flawed human beings before they are a gender. nobody should be expected to be a fairytale that’s not fair to anybody

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Anonymous OP 2w

Sweetheart. We get it your simping and then realized you weren’t clear with your words you blame it on how a normal person who doesn’t live in your head would interpret it.

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Anonymous #5 2w

if it does not apply then it shouldn't have gotten that serious. every statement has an underlying reality in the real world (every women isn't living in lalaland) so why would i be talking about every single woman in the world? you should be more careful on the internet and critically think. it's not about reading minds but considering other factors without them having to be mentioned step by step for the point to be understood

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Anonymous OP 2w

Personally I think people should strive to be the best versions of themselves regardless of gender

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Anonymous OP 2w

Dude. You made a general statement and then got butt hurt when people interpreted it as a general statement 😂😂😂 dats all on you.

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Anonymous #5 2w

again, every statement has an underlying reality in the real world (every women isn't living in lalaland) so why would i be talking about every single woman in the world? it's not about reading minds but considering other factors without them having to be mentioned step by step for the point to be understood

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Anonymous #6 2w

ofc but even if people try to be the best versions of themselves. there will still be missteps

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Anonymous OP 2w

People should also do for other people because they love them. And not because they’re looking to get something out of it. If you don’t expect someone to treat you like you’re important, that’s sad but your prerogative. The rest of us aren’t looking to follow your lead. 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous #5 2w

butthurt? having a conversation and disagreeing isn’t being butthurt? you couldn’t stay on topic and jumped to a whole new sentence completely off topic from the initial post but that’s okay

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Anonymous #5 2w

literary crisis on the rise. stop harassing me it’s getting scary

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Anonymous OP 2w

Starting to think you’re Little Penis on anon tbh.

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Anonymous #4 2w

who said that was my prerogative? or looking to get something? not expecting a fairytale ≠ expecting somebody to not treat me like important. i think you’re going based on your own definition of fairytale rather than what the world actually means

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Anonymous #7 2w

thank you because i feel like im going crazy😭

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Anonymous #8 2w

exactly my point

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Anonymous OP 2w

I’m a guy and it instantly made sense I think people just want to argue

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Anonymous OP 2w

and it was super obvious that’s what you meant too, idk why everyone else freaked out 😭😭

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Anonymous #4 2w

#5 • #4 Just now For real. lol. Like can't admit that she, or he in disguise, could have been more clear in their wording to eliminate muddying the waters but then freaks out and is "scared" when someone anonymously calls her out on it. Which honestly leads me to believe she is in fact a female😂😂

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Anonymous #8 2w

because if you don’t mention every single reality or exception within a topic then your point is invalid 😭

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Anonymous OP 2w

One word “some” “a few” “ couple of” … some girls…. Some people. Crazy it’s so hard to use a single qualifier. Ms. Literate couldn’t piece that one together? Thought you had the English vernacular under wraps over here. 😂😂

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Anonymous #5 2w

using those words can still leave room for interpretation…

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Anonymous #5 2w

it’s crazy you’re getting mad at her for sounding like a pick me yet you’re saying her getting ‘scared’ means she’s a woman? and you’re using the word female instead? this has to be a joke lol

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Anonymous OP 2w

lol. Ok. Well in that case you didn't even try. Idk girlie. Point remains. You're right you sounded like a simp. When you clarified what you mean I was on your side but still the fact that you wanna get upset because people took you at face value is on no one but you 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Anonymous #5 2w

looking at the reality of humans and how relationships are isn’t being a simp. me calling out women doesn’t mean i’m simping for men

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Anonymous #8 2w

I can make a sexist stereotypical smart ass reply and be a female lol. She literally said she’s scared over an anon thread. I thought that was funny. and what’s wrong with female? It’s called a synonym?

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Anonymous #5 2w

at least you’re self aware 😭 idk if i should even bother explaining if you’re already admitting you know you’re sexist but when you’re talking about human women, using the word female a lot of times comes off as dehumanizing. we call animals females, not people. yes it’s a synonym but the actually use of the word carries a different connotation when used for women

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Anonymous #5 2w

you’re able to say “men” but keep saying “female(s)” but i’m the “simp”😭 you’re busy coming for me for touch on a corner of basic reality meanwhile you don’t even see women are people, but a species based on your terminology😭

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Anonymous OP 2w

are you even calling women out? i think it’s kinda well known women tend to romanticize relationships in a way men don’t, especially with how much media is fed to us claiming romance is the most important thing in the world. idk this post really doesn’t read as a call out. if anything it’s just a reminder

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Anonymous #8 2w

that can also be true. i’m just saying that because men can also romanticize like wanting women to be their peace. women were just the topic of my point but there’s people taking it like because im addressing the current issue with women then it must me im not addressing men at all. that’s why i also put the disclaimer because i know how offended people get on social media now

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Anonymous OP 2w

lol. Ok. If you say so. I just thought you were being ridiculous. Said so and then you got worked up because I interpreted exactly what you wrote as you wrote it and then you got … scared. 😂

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Anonymous OP 2w

Carry on with the rest of your day 👻

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Anonymous #5 2w

well yes it scary to see somebody react the way you do😭

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Anonymous OP 2w

It’s scary to read a post. Disagree and explain why you disagree … ok girlie. Don’t let the plant outside freak you out for being green I guess. 😂Lordy.

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Anonymous OP 2w

speaking from experience, some of them are just as bad as the men 😭

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Anonymous #9 2w

literally like it’s just a human thing

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Anonymous OP 2w

more people are awful partners than we think, so it’s really annoying when some act like the grass would magically be greener if they were bi/les 😭 good people can be bad at dating

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Anonymous #9 2w

that plus being bisexual isn’t a choice😭

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Anonymous #9 2w

and i wouldn’t say awful. i think more people (really all people) are imperfect partners so the grass might be greener but i think when people hear “greener” they think perfect. disappointment, sadness, anger are all emotions that will never disappear just because love is also present

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Anonymous #10 2w

this but also you can definitely be twenty and mature but mature doesn’t mean perfect either. an immature person can be mature for a moment and a mature person can be immature for a moment too. it still all comes back to humans being human😭

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Anonymous OP 2w

imo someone’s only “good” at relationships when they can healthily break up with someone they’re not good for. that’s hard, and many people fail spectacularly when in that situation, which is why I say “awful.”I really meant that people severely underestimate how difficult relationships can be, so simply being human makes them hard

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Anonymous OP 4d

No I understand, everyone is human and expectations shouldn’t be unachievable but you also need to careful and not let your boundaries be crossed, hence “surround yourself with people who meet your expectations”

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