
9 times out of 10 it’s desiring someone with ambition. nobody cares that you’re tall and workout if you have nothing else going on. do you have any talents and aspirations? even considering work being a factor, god forbid a woman wants a stable man at their big age. finances is 100% a reason not to date someone. who would want to date a dependent?
As a man I usually go for personality over money but men are usually the ones that have to provide anything cause they usually date down as women date up as you even just admitted. Luckily me and my girl go half and half and it allows us to save up independently and buy what we want for our own hobbies! I still buy dinner 9/10 times and movie tickets and stuff but I’m talking bills and groceries