For me, it is a specific behavior that I don’t like. Doesn’t matter the color of the person doing the behavior. I just don’t like the behavior. Now, I also do have the ability to recognize that MOST (not all) of the behavior just so happens to be done by a group of ppl with common skin color
i feel like white women are usually shamed for being with a black man when they start acting differently ykwim? like when white moms will call their black children the n word like that’s weird ash. Or when they start using AAVE all of a sudden. But obv there’s no issue with a white lady dating a black man