Anonymous #1 18h

while the thought did cross my mind, i highly doubt it. i call him 24/7, through the night. He literally leaves the computer on so i can see his room and watch his cat while he’s gone at work. he doesnt go out very much (despite me encouraging him to) and most of his extracurricular activities are him hanging out with his online friends in a server i literally have access to. unless he’s secretly not going to work there is literally no way he can be cheating on me

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Anonymous OP 18h

Ok I don’t want to be too judgy here but holy shit yea I don’t think he’s cheating then 😂 but I would recommend talking to him about it! Be direct. This is to the point where you’re left just speculating on what ifs and that’s not healthy + will cause you to feel some kinda way against him since he isn’t addressing the problem

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Anonymous #1 18h

ye but i have talked to him multiple times about it 😭 i’ve even cried over the whole issue twice in front of him. he’s very forgetful so im sure it plays into it but i have literally thrown him an ultimatum today telling him if he kept his behavior up i wouldn’t be initiating at all. i don’t want to man because i feel childish

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Anonymous OP 18h

I’ve been on the bf’s side in a similar situation, being called through the night, every night is exhausting especially if working full-time. That kind of exhaustion kills sex drives. It should get easier once the distance is closed, since being on a call causes a lot more pressure to be constantly thinking of stuff to say than anything in-person

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Anonymous #2 18h

i mean i think our situation might not necessarily apply since we are on video call and we have been calling like this since the beginning our relationship (1.5 years ago). most of the time when he comes home and is on call we don’t actually have long drawn on conversations, we just keep doing the stuff we do and sometimes we watch the same youtube videos together. there isn’t a pressure to constantly talk because we’re more like just there on the other end not really doing anything

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Anonymous #2 18h

also please do not assume this is under the impression that *i* am the one pushing for the frequent contact, he is the one who pushed for this set up. he gets sad when he has to sleep without me and has trouble sleeping when im not there. we are both extremely clingy motherfuckers

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