Anonymous #1 10w

“Fraysexuality is a sexual orientation where individuals experience sexual attraction primarily towards people they don't know well or are not deeply connected with, and this attraction tends to fade as they get to know the person better. “ so basically the person is either a narcissist or has a trauma response leading them to emotional immaturity and can’t keep a connection bc their “sexuality” (they are just shitty)

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Anonymous #1 10w

It’s “oh I love you and I am gonna get close to you and lead you on but as soon as we are actually close imma break your heart bc I cant handle emotions” basically. And there’s people who actually defend it like it’s okay to do to others (there’s even worse ones out there, I just saw a post on this one.

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Anonymous OP 10w

That sounds like insane avoidant attachment issues not an orientation

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Anonymous #1 10w

Precisely!!!! It’s also “fraysexual/romantic” and they try to say it’s the opposite of demisexual/romantic and that disgusts me

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Anonymous #2 10w

??? If you read any of the other stuff I posted it’s bc it’s not an “identity” it’s an issue they are trying to cover up by making an identity out of it instead of getting the therapy they need, and they are hurting people in doing so.

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Anonymous OP 10w

how do you type that up and not notice you’re making the same arguments that the right wing does about trans people

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Anonymous #2 10w

Bc it’s not???

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Anonymous #2 10w

My argument is backed by science of psychology AND the harm of labeling something harmful as “a good/valid sexuality” when it’s neither of those? Do you understand that “fraysexual” is saying they’ll lead someone on get close to them and then break their heart (and typically do this repeatedly) bc they are so disorganized in attachment style they can’t love properly?

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Anonymous #2 10w

It’s not about every new sexuality just the bad ones (which is why I specified it being about a specific one)

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Anonymous OP 10w

don’t play obtuse. “it’s not an identity, it’s an issue they’re trying to cover up by making an identity out of it instead of getting the therapy they need” is quite literally how conservatives talk about trans people

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Anonymous #2 10w

I fear you are the one who is being obtuse, as mine was specified to something that is in fact NOT an identity AND is by MEDICAL DEF a condition that needs therapy ffs

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Anonymous OP 10w

you know what else was “backed by science of psychology” at the time? homosexuality being included as a diagnosis in the DSM. you keep just reinforcing my point

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Anonymous #2 10w

The thing about cons. is their too stupid to do research I however study psychology (specifically abnormal psych) therefore I can speak on these issues as I have the components to say what fraysexual actually is (an avoidant disorder that needs therapy)

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Anonymous #2 10w

WHICH IS BEING DEBATED TO REMOVE omfg you’re dumb

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