Anonymous beestboy 14h

Most people are not getting laid fr

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Anonymous beestboy 14h

Well it should happen to me next🥀 nobody wants to go on a date with me unless they think I’ll be giving them pussy right after. Except for one guy but he ghosted me anyway

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Anonymous beestboy 14h

I mean that’s the reason they happen cuz u gotta give them the illusion of coochie. Cuz then you’d just be friends if not lol, but I went on 8 dates with a woman last year just to see what it was like dating and not hooking up, im not sure what you see in it but that shit was ass 😂

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Anonymous beestboy 14h

Not everyone is obsessed with sex, and when men constantly shame for not being virgins why would I give it up for someone I’ve only spent a few hours with? Just to get shamed for it? Do they want women to have sex with men or not… I can’t give them the “illusion of coochie” because then they say they’re being led on. And if I say I’m open to sex longer down the line they just get impatient and pushy towards me

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Anonymous OP 14h

Shame women*

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Anonymous OP 14h

That whole “when men constantly shame” sentence should be abolished. It’s male centered, ur not “giving up” anything ur just having sex cuz u want to. If u don’t want to that’s also fine, who cares what men want or say, they’ll accept anything u give them fr.

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Anonymous OP 14h

The illusion was a joke but the idea is that you say your needs and desires up front. Whether they go for it or not is up to them. Also, u can say you’re open to it later down the line, if they’re weird about it then that man has filtered himself out. Don’t talk to weirdos

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Anonymous lightbluehater 13h

But I don’t want to enter a committed relationship right now, just like how people who hookup just want someone to spend a night with but don’t want anything more than that

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Anonymous OP 13h

It doesn’t have to be a committed relationship it can be a platonic fwb

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Anonymous lightbluehater 13h

Platonic fwb is just friends 😭

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Anonymous OP 13h

You can go on multiple dates with multiple people, it’s not illegal

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Anonymous OP 13h

Why would you? Because sex is fun. If you try it, you’ll see what I mean (obvi you don’t have to tell anyone). You’re not doing it TO get shamed, that’s just a side-effect. And even then, not really bc we live in the 21st century where like 2% of people are abstinent and most of those who aren’t no longer pretend to be. So you don’t have to be ashamed; you can just do what every other sexually active adult does, either lie abt it or ignore the tiny minority of 17th century weirdos who are still

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Anonymous #4 13h

virgins themselves and are also judgmental enough to have an issue with you not being one. Honestly it doesn’t come up as often as you think; the time travelers are almost as rare as the virgins. If anyone shames you, it’ll usually be you. And you can just choose not to do that.

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Anonymous lightbluehater 13h

Read my other comments

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Anonymous #4 13h

I don’t have any who want to just go grab food with me

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Anonymous OP 13h

Aw, I’m so sorry. You should make some. It’s easier than you’d think. And for that matter, it’s certainly easier than dating is.

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Anonymous #4 13h

I just really struggle to lie to people though, like it’s almost painful to me lol. Which is why I’m just staying abstinent for now, I’d rather do that and be truthful than feel afraid of the truth coming out down the line, who knows what would happen yk? And I know those kinds of people seem rare, idk what your gender is but as a woman I unfortunately have to see that kind of stuff almost everywhere

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Anonymous #4 13h

I think my biggest issue is that I’m a pretty nerdy person, so the people who would get along best with me are usually introverted 😭 I’ve gone out with friends a few times but I usually have to keep begging for it lol. In a small town too so it’s just really hard to find people to hang out with me unless they see it as some kind of romantic or sexual thing unfortunately

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Anonymous OP 12h

Was that a rhetorical question? Bc I know what would happen. Nothing. Same thing that happens to everyone else. Everyone I know has lied about their sex life. And everyone knows that everyone lies about it too. And when they don’t know it, they assume it, bc it’s normal. And bc it’s ok. And yeah, I’m a man but I see it too. But would you really let sexually active people make you feel bad for being the same? Do you let them shame you for breathing oxygen or having ears? It’s mostly incels in i

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Anonymous #4 12h

sta comments who never go outside, and women who disliked you in the first place. When nobody really has any room to judge, ppl pretty much only do it out of jealousy. Not that it’s never caused me problems despite that, but that never has anything to do with your ACTUAL sexual history, only what ppl assume. And you can’t control that, so everyone makes peace with it sooner or later.

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