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“why do you reply so fast?” what are we children?

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Anonymous 1d

People need time to themselves. Just because someone responds doesn’t mean they want to have a conversation that very second. People our age provide a roughly 15 minute gap between texts so that responding doesn’t feel like entering into a potentially long conversation. If the people around you are asking you this, they are clearly uncomfortable with how fast you respond and are trying to have a conversation about it with you. Instead of immediately trivializing what they are saying by calling

Anonymous 1d

literally

Anonymous 1d

Honestly I would ask this too if it happened to me. There’s so so many ai bots trying to talk to people now that are just fake profiles and shit. It’s just tiresome and messes with your head sometimes. They always respond instantly lol

Anonymous 21h

What if I intentionally wait like 1-2 so it doesn’t feel weird?😂

Anonymous 1d

Because it makes people feel like they have an obligation to text you back. Also it subliminally tells them you are always on your phone.

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Anonymous 17h

i get what you mean. if i have the opportunity to reply when i see it, then what is stopping me? it’s honestly quite pointless to not respond to a message when doing NOTHING else for no reason other than “it’s clingy.”because if i reply after 3 days because i forgot it’s a problem. my response times don’t dictate theirs either so yeah…are we children??

Anonymous

#2 1d

Them children, you should think about WHY so many people feel the need to include this 15 minute gap

Anonymous

#2 1d

the fact that people intentionally delay replies doesn’t prove it’s healthy it just proves it’s become a social norm. responding quickly shouldn’t make someone seem weird. expecting people to fake being busy is.

Anonymous

#3 1d

if someone feels obligated to reply just because i replied quickly that’s their expectation to manage. not something i caused. a fast response is an invitation to continue the conversation not a demand. lol

Anonymous

OP 1d

Op, there’s a reason why people do it. If YOU can’t understand it even when I make a huge paragraph explaining it, that’s your problem

Anonymous

#2 1d

i understand why people do it. my point is that having a reason doesnt make it a good or healthy norm. people also avoid double texting or leave people on read for “reasons”. that doesn’t mean those behaviors should be normalized. the existence of a reason doesnt justify the behavior. you’re arguing why it happens. im arguing whether it should.

Anonymous

OP 1d

There are times and places to responding immediately. But no I am not going to stop what I am doing to respond to a text, no matter how mundane the activity is.

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Anonymous

OP 1d

Replying fast is weird and clingy

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Anonymous

#3 1d

This is just the truth

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Anonymous

#3 1d

that a different point. being busy is a valid reason to reply later. intentionally waiting when you’re already available just to follow a social rule is what I’m criticizing.

Anonymous

OP 1d

It should not happen. You should not feel the need to respond to someone’s text immediately that is unhealthy and if you do think it should be a norm it is a reflection of your character.

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Anonymous

#3 1d

that not the truth. its your opinion and i respect that but i disagree. wether replying quickly is “clingy” depends on the person and the context. not on some universal rule.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Correct. It depends on the context. The majority of the time you should not reply immediately

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Anonymous

#3 1d

replying quickly because you want to doesn’t mean you feel obligated to. you’re assuming every fast reply comes from unhealthy attachment when it can just as easily come from wanting to continue the conversation. thats a pretty big leap lmao.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be normalized. This nothing wrong with expecting a 15 minute delay

Anonymous

#2 1d

but ive already said i understand it lmao. and there’s nothing wrong with replying later because you’re busy. whats odd (at least i think it is) is expecting people to intentionally delay replies when they’re already available just to fit a social norm.

Anonymous

#3 1d

There aren’t any rules, though we can see that those are the rules you live by. Nobody else “should” live by your rules because the world doesn’t revolve around you. Thank you, bye!

Anonymous

#7 20h

yes