Anonymous #1 7w

all the time? when he’s over at my place he’s checkin his phone at least once every hour

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Anonymous #1 7w

People are never “too busy” for communication in a relationship.

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Anonymous #7 7w

Agree

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Anonymous #7 7w

Says you? I can’t check my phone at work, nor while I’m driving, and sometimes I don’t have time between wake up and get ready to “communicate.” Not everyone is glued to their phones – and shouldn’t be. Just set the expectation in the relationship. And be realistic.

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Anonymous #9 7w

I work 40+ hour weeks, full time student (triple major),in 4 music ensembles and I MAKE time. My partner doesn’t feel neglected (neither do my friends) You do not have to wait til the last minute to communicate, yes there’s days I only have time to send memes while on my lunch break, but I make that known and then make up for it later. THAT’s communication. You sound emotionally immature, especially acting like communicating isn’t key for any connection to form. I suggest starting therapy.

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Anonymous #6 7w

I gen think that’s different than what OP is talking about, as they probs know the persons sleep schedules/was told they are tired etc. I do know people with tons of anxiety struggle with this (especially if they struggle to sleep) so I would empathize and suggest therapy to overcome the anxiousness.

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Anonymous #2 6w

Some people work

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Anonymous #13 6w

For 8 straight hours? Unless you’re a doctor preforming some life changing surgery then it’s an excuse. & it’s not hard to tell someone you’ll be busy.

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Anonymous #7 6w

I supposed I don’t consider memes an actual form of communication. And I do believe communication is key for connection to form. However, I don’t think one needs to communicate and be reachable at all times. If a partner isn’t comfortable with us not being able to go a few hours without communicating then that is seriously concerning.

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Anonymous #2 6w

A lot of jobs disapprove of phone use and breaks are not required to be given. In healthcare doesn’t matter your role, you go non-stop and you have to be 110% focused on your patients. Phones out to check messages is a complete no go. Those often get left in your locker/desk and get checked at the end of your shift which can be 12 hours.

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Anonymous #9 6w

Im sorry, you are federally required breaks (especially a lunch one) So idk what you mean by that. But yes life can get busy but you CAN MAKE TIME for the people in your life. I’ve seen plenty of healthcare workers check their phones and take breaks (as they should) you are just using it as an excuse. I do not believe you are some surgeon who is working on life saving things for 8 hours straight. You’re hiding behind “I’m busy” as to not communicate. And that needs therapy.

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Anonymous #9 6w

I can see where you’re coming from, but you missed the whole point of this post being about communication and a made a comment basically saying “well people don’t have to communicate” which is false. This wasn’t about being in contact all the time 24/7 it’s about communication.

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Anonymous #9 6w

Also “a few hours” is not 8+, and memes can be a form of communication to people who enjoy being funny, as my partner is. Doesn’t mean we don’t communicate in any other way tho. But it does seem like you’re lacking the emotional maturity to form a sustainable relationship.

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Anonymous #2 6w

i mean 8 hours is a regular shift for most ppl but if ur in a relationship u should know when ur partner is working? i feel like it’s normal to not respond/expect responses during work… if that makes me weird then okay

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Anonymous #2 6w

Yes for 8 straight hours? Even more lmao. nurses work 12 hour shift. Firefighters work 48 hour shift. Do you live in a world where people only work 5 hours a day? I want to go there lmao. “ unless they’re performing some life-changing surgery then it’s not an excuse” is bs. Not everyone can check their phone all the time most don’t even have their phones on them cause they’re… working. If you need to be in constant contact with your partner you need to work on your trust

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Anonymous #13 6w

This post isn’t about the “8 hours” it’s about communication, which you’ve seemed to miss. Yes people work longer hours (my grandpa was a firefighter for 30+ years) and you best believe he still made time for his family. I gen cant name one person in love who will go 12+ hours with absolutely no communication. (Even when people are on longer shifts they still have breaks etc). Im also not saying you have to be up each others asses. But this post was about communicating.

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Anonymous #7 6w

The post was about wanting a text back when they’re presumably busy. Maybe they just didn’t see it? Because again they probably didn’t have their phone on them.

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Anonymous #13 6w

“I prefer a “I’m busy rn I’ll call later” rather than 8 hours with no text back” It’s asking for communication. It’s not about the 8 hours, they’ve texted them and are now waiting on a reply bc the person had to wait so long bc there other person wasn’t communicating.

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Anonymous #7 6w

Yes, because they texted when while they were presumably busy and again, they might not have had their phone. Not everyone carries their phone around all the time.

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Anonymous #13 6w

Bc the partner didn’t communicate about how they were going to be busy for an extended period of time. It’s really not about the phone not being on the person. It’s about non-communication and neglect.

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Anonymous #7 6w

Dude, if I say I’m going to work. You can expect I’m gonna work the whole shift. Some people are busy. Sorry you’re not.

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Anonymous #13 6w

THATS COMMUNICATING!! which is LITERALLY what the post is about saying “hey imma be busy” instead of ghosting, not communicating, and neglecting your partner ffs

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Anonymous #7 6w

So don’t text people while they’re busy and expect them to say sorry I’m busy. I’m not gonna be in the middle of the shift “OMG my boyfriend texted hold on. I have to tell him I’m busy. “ because again. I’m working.

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Anonymous #13 6w

Dude you legit can’t read can you?

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Anonymous #7 6w

Can you?? What so hard about the thought of “oh they didn’t text back, they’re probably busy so I shouldn’t be upset about that.😄 especially if they’re working cause ya know, they need money to live”

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Anonymous #13 6w

Bc that’s not this post was about, it wasn’t about the reply back 💀 I fear you probs don’t do well in school do you?

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Anonymous #7 6w

Yes it is. The whole post is about wanting a reply back

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Anonymous #7 6w

I made a post saying that people don’t need to constantly communicate, to be clear. Maybe your relationships requires constant, frequent updates, but not all do. Assuming someone has emotional immaturity because they don’t form the same time of relationships as you is in fact immature. The healthiest relationships I have been in are the ones where we go hours without texting. My life should not revolve around my partner and we should learn to deal with that unknown.

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Anonymous #9 6w

Perhaps that’s how I was raised, but my grandparents and parents would go hours or days without speaking and all had happy and successful marriages. They just set the expectation, which is communication.

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Anonymous #9 6w

I think you’re mistaking communication with constantly being up someone’s ass lol.

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