Anonymous OP 11w

YES. I’m single and a virgin too and waiting for the right woman. It’s literally combining our bodies into one, that’s such a soul tie and I’m not making a soul tie until we’ve been in each others lives for a while and are both ready for it

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Anonymous #2 11w

YESSS!!! That’s literally how I view it too! I know not everyone does so I DONT want to push that on anyone, but I view it as one of the most intimate soul tieing things you can do with another person. The fuck I look like giving my body up that quick to man who’s probably gonna dip on me after only a couple months anyway? Nah! Imma make him wait a while and let the romance lead to that. A lot of people don’t know how to be romantic anymore tho. I NEED someone who’s romantic or Imma leave.

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Anonymous OP 11w

EXACTLY, like I want to soul tie with you emotionally before it becomes physical. We should both value ourselves and each other enough to be willing to wait until we both know we want it

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Anonymous OP 11w

It makes dating more challenging since so many people want sex fast but I think it’s so worth it and rare to find

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Anonymous OP 11w

Plus I would guess that sex is infinitely better when you have romantic history with a person and can genuinely say I love you during the act

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Anonymous OP 11w

Like imagine being best friends and lovers for months and then finally becoming physically united and melting into each other, what I’d give to have that

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Anonymous OP 11w

exactlyyy. i’m not even keeping it on some “i’m holier and purer than thou” shit, but literally bc that is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone and i want to be ready. like i should dead be your best friend, you know everything about me, and we have a DEEP emotional connection before we do that. if even after that i get screwed over, at least i know i stayed to true to myself

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Anonymous #3 11w

Exactlyyy. Ive had people ask if I was “keeping it for marriage” and NAH! I’m not! I just want everything you just typed out. 🤣🤷🏾‍♀️ If it’s rare, so be it. I’ll gladly wait if it means I get to keep my damn diginity.

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Anonymous OP 11w

Wait where are you from?? I feel like this is such an uncommon thing I have a hard time finding people who agree with me

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Anonymous OP 11w

exactly. i would never hate on someone who has a different opinion but ik what i want and don’t want to be pressured into doing stuff like that. all the guys i’ve come across immediately ghost after i say i take things very slow. like okay then TOODLES

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Anonymous OP 11w

This is my one huge rule when it comes to dating. I never want a girl that I am seeing to feel like she has to open her legs on the first few dates. I want to connect with you, learn your interests, figure out your hobbies, enjoy each other’s company and go on cute little dates like picnics in the park. I hate that it has become so normalized where girls feel like they have to have sex on the first date, otherwise the guy isn’t into you

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Anonymous #3 11w

Stay strong, it’s like a damn warzone out there. Don’t step on any mines, keep your head down, and something worthwhile might come along.

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Anonymous #7 11w

I definitely know other men like you exist, however, as much as I’d like to trust that, I’ve had other men tell me guys will always cheat on me because I “don’t want to put out” and that “they’ll just get it from somewhere else.” and knowing that THOSE types do actually exist and quite a few are like that, has definitely factored into me not wanting to date at all. 🤣

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Anonymous #2 11w

Missouri

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Anonymous #9 11w

Hey, don’t worry, I promise you’ll find someone who is willing to wait

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Anonymous #11 11w

I felt like that at 19 and almost decided to hook up with someone as a result and I’m SO GLAD I DIDNT! 🤣 It’s not abnormal. Just not common.

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Anonymous #9 11w

Being hella selective is the only way to go for me personally. And idc who my first time is with, THEY GETTING TESTED before they can even think of doing it with me. 😘

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Anonymous OP 11w

And also like if the test is positive then I wouldnt even want them anymore because why are you being irresponsible and getting STDs??? Like no

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Anonymous OP 11w

matter of fact lemme see ALL the paperwork

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Anonymous OP 11w

Yup! So many people don’t use protection at all these days. I like to wait 6 months before I feel comfortable enough and I’ve actually had 2 guys that had waited that long and didn’t want to wear a condom and hadn’t been tested recently so I had to turn them down. It’s so insulting bc they care more about their pleasure more than my health

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Anonymous #9 11w

Wait so they just refused even after you asked them to??? Are you serious??? I’d have to end the relationship. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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