Anonymous #1 12w

Wait do you think he did it on purpose?

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Anonymous OP 12w

he said he thought he was helping us in the moment but he realizes now how bad it was. he’s just too conceited and narcissistic to be trusted with things that really matter. he had a really great track record of trades, i thought we were set for life. you never invest money you’re not willing to lose. that’s rule #1. it took me years to even register and fully process what happened and i feel like i’m on the verge of a breakdown constantly. i feel so horrible about myself

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Anonymous #1 12w

How long ago did he lose the money? And how old are you

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Anonymous OP 12w

2 years ago

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Anonymous #1 12w

How old are you now do you have a good support system

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Anonymous OP 12w

i’m 27 and no lol i have no family or friends, my bf has been the only person in my life since the pandemic

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Anonymous #1 12w

Are you able to earn enough to support yourself?

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Anonymous OP 12w

no i’m disabled

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Anonymous #1 12w

Were you with family before him?

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Anonymous OP 12w

all my family is either dead or no contact. my brother doesn’t want me living with him in my dads house and i asked my family in norway if i could move over there with them and they said no lol. even when i did talk to my family they didn’t want me around. they’re very cold people

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Anonymous #1 12w

You deserve sm better that makes me sad

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Anonymous OP 12w

thank you it makes me sad too

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Anonymous #1 12w

Is there any possible way you can leave him

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Anonymous OP 12w

do you know anyone else willing to pay my bills? pls introduce me

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Anonymous #1 12w

Is there any possible way you can get enough to live without him?

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Anonymous OP 12w

Or will you always be dependent on someone else

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Anonymous OP 12w

his dad is rich and lives in nyc and i made him tell his dad what he did and all his dad told him was to get a job. even tho his dad neglected him and knew he had mental health issues like narcissism (it runs in the family) and did nothing about it when he was a kid. he said as much. i thought his dad would care he ruined my life but at the end of the day it was my fault for not knowing healthy boundaries and that’s the most painful part

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Anonymous OP 12w

yeah i’ve never been financially independent in my life and i only keep getting more disabled. but to get disability you have to literally have no money left so when it gets to that point i’ll definitely apply

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Anonymous OP 12w

i’ve been a hobosexual since i was 18 after my mom kicked me out and this money after my dad died was my first taste of freedom and happiness and i immediately gave some shitty person the power to ruin all of it bc i thought i had it all figured out

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Anonymous #1 12w

Are you able to leave him live on what you have then live off of disability?

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Anonymous OP 12w

no

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Anonymous #3 12w

no i don’t trust anyone honestly. i thought i was doing a smart thing bc i didn’t want to trust financial advisors but i absolutely should have. i was just so relieved to finally be out of survival mode i was so fucking careless. just so mentally exhausted i was so excited someone was going to make things better for me. it was so simple not to mess up and he did one of the only things he could’ve done to completely ruin it

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Anonymous #4 12w

i had no idea he was doing it. he told me he was investing $12k max in a trade at a time. but you’re right i should’ve put it in a separate account so he didn’t have access to anything but that. i didn’t think to protect myself bc i couldn’t fathom he would lie or trade so much for no reason. it’s a common theme in my life where i don’t protect myself from the worst case senario bc i truly believe no one could be that horrible and people keep proving to be even more horrible than i can fathom

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Anonymous #4 12w

i had a man lie to me about his family dying to get money from me. i’ve had a man brag about having $25k in his bank account and not paying me back after i bailed him out of jail. when you have complex ptsd from abuse the kindest things you ever do are often the most harmful. i’ve always tried to be who would’ve saved me and it’s done immeasurable damage. when your parents don’t allow you to have boundaries and then give you a bunch of money you have to learn boundaries the hard way

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