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dare i say that if your kinks or fetishes emerged from trauma, you should be getting therapy for it instead of sexualizing it? idk it’s very uncomfortable as the partner to be asked to cater to fetishes that stem from abuse…
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Anonymous 3w

As long as everything’s consensual I don’t see an issue, you’re always allowed to say no to stuff you don’t want to do, vanilla or not

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Anonymous 3w

Are you assuming they are stemming from abuse or was it communicated by your partner?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

communicated 🫩 and its ex partner now. he asked me to actually beat him up.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Damn that’s tragic

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

i know…he wanted me to recreate the abuse of his mother…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

As someone in the therapy field it’s often an actual coping mechanism people will do, though obviously maladaptive. It’s usually a surrogate way they feel control over their trauma

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

yeah, that’s what my aunt said (psychologist). but it’s so sad

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

It is hopefully he eventually seeks out healthier coping skills, not sure if you are religious but I’ll keep in him my prayers

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