
As someone who did the same (I was 19-20, he was 32), please try to reconsider. I regret tf outta it. If he was genuinely mature and respectful like you’re saying, he would be dating someone his own age. The reason why he’s probably NOT is because young women like us believe the act more easily. There’s a very real chance he’s manipulating. They know what we want to hear, baby. They’ll say whatever they can. I wish I wouldn’t have let it happen when it happened to me. Please reconsider.
Well bro it’s cuz they’re 19 😭 you’re comparing teenagers to a fully emotionally developed adult. You’re right I would crack a much older person when I was younger and it is a common experience in ur age group, the canon event is afterwards when you get to know them and that mask drops and you realize they’re acc kinda weird and not that cool in the long run. Good luck tho, be safe and have fun :)
Yeah, almost everyone who dates people WAY younger than themselves does it for one of two reasons: A) Predatory thinking, they know younger people are easily swayed and manipulated compared to people their own age, and that they can impress younger people with things like having Adult Money. B) Arrested development, they’re mentally stuck at an age they are not anymore, and dare younger people because they genuinely think those are their people. Neither are good for a long-term partner.
This was a very hard pill for me to swallow at your age, but even being just a few years older now, I can see how wrong it was. At the end of the day, it’s your life and you can do whatever you want with it… BUT, I strongly encourage you to think about this from an outside perspective and take some time to wonder about why a 30yo would be dating someone your age.
I understand. I was (and sometimes still am) the same way. But this is all the more reason and indication to get out of it now. The more time goes on, the more attached to him you’ll get. The more you’ll rely on him for emotional stability. The more control he has over you and the less autonomy you have over your own life, sweetheart. It might be hard to get out of, but if you don’t try, it’ll just keep getting harder.