Fr. Chases me for a year while I’m in a relationship. Then too “busy” and “not ready for a relationship” when I’m single. Not too busy or uninterested in relationships for her new bf though. Ah well, it was a bit of a weird situation for everybody. Just wish she would have been upfront about it instead of ghosting me. She was a good friend for a while too.
I get that rejecting someone is scary for a plethora of reasons but I tried *so hard* to make it clear that it was okay if she didn’t want to date me Told her several times that I’d rather her be honest even if she thinks it’ll hurt my feelings than lie to make me feel better; told her I care more about her being happy than I do about being in a relationship; told her I’d respect her choice no matter what, but I needed to know if she changed her mind so I could start moving on
i just wanna say as a girl i’m happy you communicated with her in spite of what happened. it’s very rare to find someone so open to express boundaries and understanding. she might’ve had trouble in the past with rejections and handle them poorly, but at the end of the day it just wasn’t meant to be. trust me, you’ll find a girl who appreciates you for being open.