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can anybody with a healthy relationship tell me flaws that their partner has? i fear men are too disturbed for me to dealšŸ˜•
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Anonymous 9w

yeah i would not recommend dating men unless you are incredible at setting and maintaining boundaries bc they always push them

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Anonymous 9w

Healthy relationship for 6+ years, probably his biggest flaws that I think are an issue would be he has a very hard time admitting he’s wrong (I can count on one hand how many times he’s straight up admitted it) usually he just tries to change the subject or moves on a different way. He also has this weird inability to fold laundry. Not do laundry, he does it, but his drawers are literally chaos and it drives me insane because he never finds anything and then that leads to his weird bad habit of

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Anonymous 9w

All men are monsters

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Anonymous 9w

My bf and I are going on 3 years. He’s a really good guy, just has a hard time identifying emotions and verbalizing them. We still get along great, he’s very sweet and provides words of affirmation without me asking. There’s chores that we argue over but he still does them. He doesn’t complain a lot or get angry like ever. There’s so many people out there you really can’t get bogged down in the minor things. I was very very picky and he was the first guy I could see a future w/h after many dates

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Anonymous 9w

i’m in the healthiest relationship i’ve ever been in, but my man is private with his life. maybe it’s just me bc i tell him every detail of every thing that happens to me. he also doesn’t open up about his emotions a lot. when we first started talking i was unsure if wanted to pursue a relationship bc of him being ā€œtoo nonchalantā€ but since then he’s opened up a lot more. he just doesn’t express his feelings when he’s sad or mad a lot.

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Anonymous 9w

every person has their own flaws, some are just easier to deal with than others and you need to find the line of what you can and cannot deal with

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Anonymous 9w

My partners got this awful way of trying to excuse everything. i warn them about somebody’s intentions and even after being proved right i get a ā€œoh they were drunkā€ or ā€œthey were having an off night they aren’t like thatā€

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

omg😟

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9w

Always finding a way to blame me for small things (like not finding his clothes and being late is because ā€œyou have too many clothes!ā€ Even though I separate our clothes so he knows exactly where his are! So overall very minimal issues. He’s a blessing if I’m honest

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9w

omg i know people are always going to be annoying but idk if this is like FOR me. maybe i just gotta find somebody that’s normal overall

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Imma be real: there’s no one who’s ā€œnormalā€ overall. Like the guy im complaining about is quite literally the most normal average guy ever. Everyone has their quirks though or ā€œbad habitsā€ and it’s just about like learning and accepting them, or compromising or changing them for ur partner. There’s a lot of evolving that happened for my bf and I to get to where we are but to be honest I wouldn’t change it for the world bc he’s my person

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9w

so what i’m understanding is that it’s just work. how do you know though if it’s worth it with that reality of imperfection and differences vs blatant incompatibility

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9w

Just because he doesn’t identify doesn’t mean he doesn’t have them ^ he does get grumpy and can’t explain why but it’s more like pouting haha

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

i think you just not looking in the right spot for a good guy

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Anonymous 9w

i never said it was a minority. just said you weren’t looking in the right places is all lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Yeah relationships are a lot of work to be honest. And it depends on how they make you feel. For me, it was always worth it with my bf because he was the only bf I ever had that I felt like I was ā€œhomeā€ with when I was with him. I don’t know it was just different. But then I’ll be honest the bf I was with before him I thought I loved a lot too but it was I don’t know like a different coming home feeling this time around

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