Anonymous #1 6d

I’d love to know why. My partner and I have never cared. Most of my friends are women. She went to Greece for a study abroad and had a room with a girl and a guy friend. I turned 21 and went for drinks with her female roommate and crashed back at the apartment without her there. Maybe we’re the crazy ones

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Anonymous #2 6d

I mean it’s worked for 7 years between my fiancee and I. Sounds like you might be speaking from a place of hurt?

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Anonymous #4 6d

This is the key. Any time I or my partner have felt uncomfortable around a certain person, for whatever reason, we tell each other. Depending on what happened we may adjust accordingly by cutting off friends or making sure we are with each other when around them

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Anonymous OP 6d

Aren’t you proving my point though? If he’s your fiancee now it doesn’t sound exactly platonic. Im just a realistic speaking truth.

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Anonymous OP 6d

Communication and respected boundaries are so important.

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Anonymous #2 6d

Lmfao. My fiancee and I were never just friends. We met and then went on our first date a couple weeks later. And across 7 years since then, we both have had and hung out alone with members of the opposite sex

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Anonymous #5 6d

Aye my fiancee is also a bi woman. Maybe it’s just a queer thing lol. Yes! Our point exactly! If I can’t trust you to be around a person cause I think you’ll cheat, then clearly the most fundamental part of the relationship isn’t present

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Anonymous #7 6d

I think that’s fair, I could understand how the presence of alcohol would change boundaries for some people

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Anonymous OP 6d

I honestly think alcohol is fine! Anytime I was in a relationship and was around my guy friends drinking I never did anything I think for me the setting is more like if yall are planning sleepovers on purpose that’s a bit werid to ke

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Anonymous #7 6d

Yeah, only thing similar I’ve done was the earlier mentioned drinking with her roommate. We went back to her and my fiancee’s apartment afterwards, and I slept in my fiancé‘s room, but that was less of a sleepover then it was passing tf out

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Anonymous #8 6d

You know what? That’s okay too king

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Anonymous OP 6d

That’s totally different I’d say!!

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Anonymous #7 6d

Yeah definitely. There’s an intentionality behind saying hey we’re gonna stay up all night at my place having a sleepover as opposed to just needing a place to stay after drinking

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Anonymous OP 6d

Absolutely!! One is unplanned and needed which I think is totally fine given the circumstances better to stay somewhere safe than no where at all

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Anonymous #7 6d

For sure, and the thing about a sleep over is like I wanna go too! That would be fun, but if you’re like no I want it to be just us then nope

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Anonymous OP 6d

Again, it sounds like you just made my argument for me. If you think this is helping your position it’s really not.

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Anonymous #9 6d

As of now, I’m absolutely traumatized over my best guy friend of 6 years choosing a girl over our friendship who he knew for 3 months. We were always platonic friends. Absolutely broke me. So I don’t want to get close to another guy as a friend.

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Anonymous #2 6d

No my friend, maybe you need to reread my original question. “Can men and women have close platonic friendships?” Key would there is can, as in if attempted. Me falling in love with my future wife is not me attempting to have a close platonic friendship Me being friends with her roommates and my female classmates is an attempt at a close platonic friendship, and it clearly can, and has, been possible for the both of us. This isn’t that hard to understand

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Anonymous #4 6d

Man sounds like new girlfriend did not want him spending time with you. Unfortunately he chose the one he was in a more romantic relationship with. I’m sorry, both that he chose that, and that she made him choose

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