Anonymous #2 2w

not everything is about sex

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Anonymous OP 2w

i agree! thank you for stating that!!

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Anonymous #5 2w

i agree there has to be some physical attraction, but conventionally attractive (what society finds attractive) is different from subjectively attractive (what an individual finds attractive). i def have my own physical biases, but they aren’t considered a universal fact. i oftentimes find myself altering those biases the more i get to know a guy to reflect the physical characteristics of that guy, inducing more than surface level physical attraction.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Just say looks matter it’s ok.

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Anonymous #5 2w

looks matter for everyone, i think that’s been well established. the question is how much do looks truly matter in the grand scheme of a truly loving relationship? a guy could be the most handsome or rich man in the world and i still wouldn’t find it worthwhile if i seem like nothing more than something nice to touch and look at. humans are more than our physical characteristics, we wouldn’t have evolved language if having deep, intuitive understanding of each other wasn’t important.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Well most women don’t want love. They want to feel safe and protected. So doesn’t really matter if they love the guy

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Anonymous #5 2w

Insane thing to say

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Anonymous #1 2w

It’s fine. You guys are annoying. Can’t talk about anything around the thought police 🙄😒

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Anonymous #3 2w

Oh look I’m being called names because I disagree with 5. Can’t say anything around the thought police 🙄

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Anonymous #1 2w

🤨 that was terrible

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Anonymous #1 2w

Hey I know a marriage counselor in the 20 years of counseling he said there’s two things women want from a man in a relationship: Protection and to feel safe. Is that not wrong?

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Anonymous #5 2w

“he” said

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Anonymous OP 2w

Fucking come on would it have changed anything if I had said a woman counselor. For fucks sales get a brain

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Read what I commented again reallllllyyyyy slowly. Use your brain and don’t insert things I didn’t say he said

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Anonymous #5 2w

I think you might require one if you think women don’t want or care about love, or rather don’t include it as any form of priority

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Anonymous #5 2w

“Well most women don’t want love”

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Anonymous #5 2w

We all know that you’re marriage counselor didn’t say that. I just wanted you to admit it. That’s your own fucked up interpretation of what he said

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Generalizing is necessary for abstract thought

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Anonymous #1 2w

Sorry I didn’t record it, timestamp it, and give a fucking reference. That’s what he told me. But fine whatever can’t convince someone who has no open mind and just wants to disagree.

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Anonymous #6 2w

Ok then tell that to the 60% divorce rate that’s initiated by women who “love” their partner. Yeah there are exceptions but the majority is that they don’t love the man and want money

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Anonymous #8 2w

Literally it’s like they don’t know this

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Anonymous #6 2w

I said MOST. Read the words and use the brain you’ve been given. I did not say all. I did not say just the word women.

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Anonymous #3 2w

It’s like they have no accountability ever. It’s always someone else’s fault

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Anonymous #5 2w

i suggest seeking a new marriage counselor bc i believe you still have some unaddressed reservations

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Anonymous OP 2w

You really are that dumb aren’t you? My quote “Hey I know a marriage counselor…” emphasis on the KNOW. He is not my counselor. He is a friend. Also yeah I have trust issues from being in an abusive relationship, and see how modern women treat men.

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I mean are men supposed to be happy when we are treated as ATMs, ridiculed on social media, have double standards used on us, have everything taken away in a divorce including kids, false accusations of sexual harassment, sexually harassed and assaulted when no one believes us or takes it seriously, blamed for problems we didn’t even do, have our emotions and secrets used against us even when we open up, have the highest suicide rate of any sex and no one cares? I can go on.

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Yes both men and women do terrible things. My best friend decided he was done being my friend and cut all contact after a year. I can only speak from the experiences I experience and see.

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There’s also a difference between transference and trust issues. Transference is transferring feeling from one person to another that has no relation to the other. Trust issues is from one or multiple people hurting you. I’m not transferring. I’m a psychology major

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