Anonymous #10 21h

That one person over there

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Anonymous #25 21h

16 deleted all their comments because I recognized them for what they are and that upsets them I suppose 🤷 if larping on the internet to start petty arguments makes them happy then to each their own ig

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Anonymous #25 21h

Either that or they got downvoted to hell, which tbh based on the original comment wouldn’t be surprised by that either

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Anonymous #5 21h

It’s worse bro it’s like asking “were you wet” it’s not just insinuating that it’s somehow the victims fault but that they should’ve enjoyed it 🤮

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Anonymous #26 21h

I am so sorry that happened to you. You didn’t deserve it. It wasn’t your fault. I hope you get justice and are able to find peace. I promise that lots of people care. Idk if you are a prayer person, but I will pray for you #26 🩵

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Anonymous #26 21h

Like many assume victims 💔

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Anonymous #6 21h

*assault

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Anonymous #32 20h

Omg I am so sorry

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Anonymous #32 20h

I’m sorry🫂 it’s not fair for them to invalidate something that must’ve been difficult to say. Praying for you!

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Anonymous #22 20h

woman can be perpetrators and im not trying to take away from your argument at all but i would also like to point out that studies show that both male and female victims are more likely to get assaulted by men… woman are also assaulted by women and i think it’s somewhat harmful to always assume it’s someone of the other sex

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Anonymous #20 19h

i think they deleted all the comments thatre against the post. oh and hell isn’t real

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Anonymous #16 19h

so glad 16 revealed themself again so i can block them ❤️‍🩹

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Anonymous #39 18h

Basically it’s the over dramatic man vs “crazy” women ( whom ppl think deserved it). It’s all bs and doesn’t make their experience any less real

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Anonymous #43 18h

R u saying people that get raped like it????? What the fuck

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Anonymous cherrygirlie 18h

that’s not what they’re saying at all, coming from an SA victim. they’re saying that the hardware will react to stimulation even if that stimulation is incredibly violating and invasive, so them being hard isn’t a justification for the act. the biological reaction to something you don’t want is part of why SA is so invasive, since they’re taking away control of your body in multiple ways

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Anonymous #27 18h

Wait that doesn’t turn u off??? Okie sorry I didn’t know that’s crazy

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Anonymous cherrygirlie 18h

you’re alright! there isn’t much widespread education on SA and a lot of misinfo, so it’s normal to not know everything. the turned on/off thing also varies from person to person, and it might be different for different genitalia: male victims are less common, so info on their experiences isn’t as well-known

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Anonymous #45 18h

Men don’t control boners btw…

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Anonymous OP 18h

Emotional regulation

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Anonymous #45 18h

because that’s not how it works. stimulation makes someone hard, and sometimes people get hard randomly just for maintenance reasons. part of why it’s so violating is because they’re making you hard/“ready” for something you don’t want.

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Anonymous #6 18h

what

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Anonymous #45 17h

do some research

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Anonymous #46 17h

that doesn’t make sense tbh. cause it really just comes across as dismissing and almost mocking something bad that happened to them

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Anonymous #21 17h

I dunno, it’s kind of hard to explain. I’m a girl so I don’t really get it myself, but I’ve seen it with my brother’s friends. Not the exact situation, but a hard time either way and they said something of the same sort but I know they’d have his back no matter what. The one who said it was just his best-man back in June too

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Anonymous #30 17h

I was just saying it because both are common phrases said when each happens.

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Anonymous #47 16h

If it was wanted it wouldn’t be SA, like I don’t understand people who argue men want to be SA’ed. Like I’m sure a few do… but like wtf

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Anonymous #46 16h

it depends but 99% of the time that’s an insanely gross thing to say to a victim

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Anonymous cherrygirlie 16h

It makes no sense I’m pretty sure no one wants to be SA’ed like I don’t understand these people’s logic like this is exactly why men have a harder time speaking up

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Anonymous #47 16h

I’ve gotten DMs where guys say they wanna be SA’ed by me… first off weird dm, but like yea ur right

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Anonymous #10 16h

A lot of people when a guy has the bravery to come out and tell their story I’ve literally gotten told “she isn’t even cute” telling my ex about what happened

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Anonymous #46 16h

I mean i wasn’t there for the convo so maybe it wasn’t that bad, but in general, I think ur brother’s friend probably shouldn’t have said that

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Anonymous #6 16h

You sound like someone with experience 🤨

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Anonymous #10 15h

it’s only rlly gotta be people who’ve sexually assaulted some1 and dont want to take accountability for their actions. or ragebaiters (psycho/sociopaths in this case)

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Anonymous #51 15h

I realized I was SA’d multiple times years after it happened, and saw how much it impacted me only after hearing about my friend’s experience. it really is awful how many people don’t realize how they were hurt :/

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Anonymous #37 14h

During an epidemic of male rapists?

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Anonymous #52 14h

I would personally rather complete research on under researched topics

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Anonymous #52 14h

male victims of sexual assault are most often assaulted by other men

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Anonymous #37 14h

And be able to advocate for friends who might not understand what happened to them

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Anonymous #37 14h

thank you!! your work helps to contextualize sexual violence as both a women’s issue AND a human issue. it also helps with educating men on the experiences of male victims so they may contextualize their own experiences. this also may bring more attention to trans masc/men victims, which is all to important given the statistics of trans IPT/SA victims

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Anonymous #37 14h

So your desire to do something different supersedes your duty to make an impact on the danger women face every day?

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Anonymous #37 14h

Your work is important. Don’t let people make you feel otherwise.

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Anonymous #52 14h

I mean one could argue that one of the reasons men are victimizing women is because men don’t recognize it as a victimization tactic because it happened to them and no one told them it was wrong. But I am a woman and I understand the danger we face, I just also recognize that there are so many people bringing awareness and writing articles that I wouldn’t make as big of a positive impact as I could in a different area.

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Anonymous #16 14h

get fucked

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Anonymous #55 13h

this happened to me as a kid and other people just went “oh that means she likes you” and now as an adult I still see people my age saying that shit 💀

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Anonymous #27 12h

Weird. Yea it’s not as glamorous or awesome as it sounds. Especially as someone who is very introverted and somewhat shy.

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Anonymous #30 11h

One case a girl got raped and she organsm. Because of that the judge ruled that she wanted it and dismissed the case. If you tickle someone, they will laugh if they like it or not.

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