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I love my gay male friend dearly but I wish I could tell him it’s bad to suck random guys dicks without sounding line I’m slut shaming him.
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Anonymous 9w

Slut shame him

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Anonymous 9w

If you do decide to say something just be clear it’s coming from a place of concern and being safe. If my friend brought this up with me the only part that’d come off as shaming is the random guys bit. I don’t personally sleep with guys I haven’t known for a while but body count doesn’t and shouldn’t matter as long as people are being safe about it. While advancements in medicine have given us ways to treat diseases it’s just better to try our best not to get them in the first place.

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Anonymous 9w

the reason that sounds like slut-shaming is because it is slut-shaming

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

How so?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

? casual sex isn’t actually “bad” just because he doesn’t already know the other person, that’s purely a value judgment on your part. and slut-shaming = making negative judgments about someone based on promiscuity alone. so, by definition…

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

It’s moreso the fact that he doesn’t use protection and can contract STDs, and based on our conversations he’s just being used by these guys.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

you didn’t say “he should use protection / start taking truvada / ask for his partners’ testing records”, you said “it’s bad to suck random guys dicks”. which is slut-shaming. so don’t say that to him, period

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

I didn’t say that because even if he’s using protection, he’s still being used by the guys as I previously said. That’s part of why it’s bad. You just aren’t understanding me and I can tell we will not agree, you only want to argue, so bye.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

it’s not “being used” unless he’s being fed misconceptions about what he means to these other guys. did you know most STIs are fully treatable, that HIV is preventable with medication, that people can contract HSV without even having sex?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

Bye

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

you need to take a few steps back and ask yourself why you think you know so much better than him re: the activities *he* is choosing to engage in. especially because it sounds from your post like you aren’t a gay man yourself

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

Blocking you 😘

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