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Reading peer reviewed studies on how evil many men are (5-15% rapists, 22-57% guilty of SA, 95% guilty of trying to persuade a no into a yes) and remembering the one ex who showed basic human decency. Will I ever find this again?
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Anonymous 1w

Damn that’s insane, I never even thought to try and convince a girl to say yes if she said no, though some girls do probably want you to persuade them so they say no to begin with, but I’d never assume that.

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Anonymous 1w

Uh, you got a source for those numbers? Because 60% guilty of SA seems like a ridiculous number unless we start including a really wide definition of SA

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Anonymous 1w

Probably not

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Anonymous 1w

I know a lot of men are gross but I’m not buying those numbers AT ALL

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Yes. Sadly I do. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4484276/

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Also the rape stat is apparently 6-15%. I mis-remembered. It’s all in the intro to this paper, original papers cited. I don’t want this to be the reality any more than you do. But sadly it is.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Here’s the 95% one https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/08862605261432630

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Ah I see, so it’s a range because it’s multiple papers with multiple different results

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Yes, and they’re all bad. And lived experience corroborates their findings. And I’m not going to settle for a guy who displays any of this behavior. So probably I need to find a way to become lesbian.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Well either I find a unicorn or I go 4b. I know maybe two men that I’d actually trust as a partner. Finding such a man who is mutually attracted to me… yeah the probability is so low and all I want is basic humanity.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Oh actually it’s 4, but two of them are gay.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Congratulations, you’re part of the 5% who possess basic human decency. Pls talk about it with your male friends.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I’ve cut off several friends cause they were creeps to my girl friends

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

I linked the studies. I was shocked too when I first saw it. Shocked and disappointed. But this is why it’s so important to have these conversations. If we stay quiet, this will never change.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Villainizing men isn’t going to make things change. I think you’re genuinely brainwashed if you believe some of those studies. 95% of men? Thats 19 out of 20. You really believe that? Really?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6d

I’m not villainizing men. I’m literally just sharing personal experience and peer reviewed research. Women deserve to know what they’re getting into and how to properly navigate dating, and sharing the research helps with that. If sharing the truth looks like villainizing men to you, suck it up I don’t care.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

I agree with your overall point but you’re not sharing the truth. Those studies clearly lie or exaggerate numbers to demonize men.

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