hate when this man asks me “is there anything you want to do tonight?” why do i ALWAYS have to be the one with a plan. how about you plan something for us to do for once.
so now it’s 6PM on a saturday and i guess we’ll be staying in the house. great.
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Anonymous4w
bro most likely thinks he’s doing the right thing by letting you lead. if you want him to surprise you or make decisions on behalf of both of you, then make sure to tell him as much directly
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Anonymous4w
No seriously. Just please make your own decisions for once instead of making me plan and choose everything every time 😭 can’t you make a date at some point?
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Anonymous4w
What happened to collaboration, my ex was the same way. Ideating together just creates better experiences. It’s not that much effort. What are your expectations?
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Anonymous4w
Weird I plan everything haha
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Anonymous#44w
So having something you want to do isn’t making decisions for the both of you inherently. It could literally be “what do you think about going out for a date *doing this activity* tonight?” It’s not put in no input or all of the input.
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Anonymous#44w
When one person has to come up with all of the ideas and concepts and activities all of the time, it gets really draining.
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Anonymousmother_russia4w
there’s a high likelihood the other person isn’t thinking of potential activity-planning as an obligation or duty and instead thinks he’s just leaving things open-ended. hence what I said about direct communication