Anonymous #2 14w

“I understand, I’m here for you.” “I’m sorry you’re going through that.” Like have an ounce of empathy?? Is it really that hard?

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Anonymous OP 14w

Even just listening and being there and actually paying attention. A bad day is a bad day doesn’t matter how “stupid” the problem is.

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Anonymous #2 14w

maybe not their intention but it comes across as dismissive

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Anonymous #3 14w

also why is everyone using “woman” as an insult? weird

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Anonymous #3 14w

Right like atp just say you hate women bro smh

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Anonymous #2 14w

You’re weird dude, what in the world does that have to do with being a woman

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Anonymous OP 14w

I do say that as well.

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Anonymous OP 14w

I do this as well. I ask is there something that would make you feel more at ease? Go to the beach, a walk? A massage? Some dinner? Some exercise. I listen and Ofer if there’s anything they wanna talk about at any time I’ll be here or anything they wanna do we can do. But at the end I do say “you’re going to be fine” or “everything’s going to be fine” bc that’s the positive thing to say. And I would want someone to tell me that whenever I’m going thru shit because you’re right we gotta keep a

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Anonymous OP 14w

Positive attitude. It’s just time that we need to recover

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Anonymous #2 14w

All this sounds much better than ONLY “you’re gonna be fine” also adding “sounds like something a woman would say” is not helpful to your argument. We do need to stay positive and all the other stuff with that statement is very different than just the statement. It’s about context

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Anonymous OP 14w

Because when we are there spending time with you hearing “it’s going to be fine” is more than words. We know what you mean, in a way it’s common sense. If you didn’t gaf you wouldn’t be there but knowing you’re there and sticking next to me we know what you’re trying to get at. And majority of the time girls are usually the ones complaining about it. It’s like bro me do you not see what I see? Or at least guys I know see? If you are there and even if you don’t say much it speaks so much. I

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Anonymous OP 14w

I understand not everyone knows what to say in those tough times I understand that but having a person there is enough to know where their mindset is and their intention.

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Anonymous #2 14w

Right. But that’s not what you said before. You’re adding things now to defend your statement. I respect it but if all I get is your first original comment, I’m gonna think you’re a dbag man who hates women

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