Anonymous #1 7w

Let’s not demean their actions by calling them “boys” they are grown men who know and understand exactly what they’re saying. I’m tired of hearing this even if it I just trying to be supportive.

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Anonymous #11 7w

thanks bae

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Anonymous #5 7w

I think this is more demeaning them as people by calling them immature, emotionally stunted, pieces of shit by comparing them to children rather than trying to lessen what they did by saying it was a childish action

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Because I don’t have sex due to being raped in my childhood??? Put 2 and 2 together please

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Anonymous #13 7w

So you just don’t have sex with anybody?

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Anonymous #8 7w

NO asshat, people who’ve been raped can still have sexlives but theyre gonna respond differently to intimacy than someone who doesn’t have trauma. Some may cope with sex and others may cope by staying abstinent. If you had basic human decency you would understand that they’re opening up about their trauma as an EXPLANATION and NOT and excuse as to why they don’t want to have sex. So many men take it so fucking personally, like jeez just respect that people have trauma

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Also, if u get attacked by a bear in the woods, you’re gonna feel some type of way about entering a forest again after that attack. The brain creates certain defense mechanisms against trauma. It all depends on the person

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Anonymous #6 7w

yup.

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Anonymous #14 7w

same

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Anonymous #6 7w

Yeah like sa survivors can have sex lives but it’s still going to effect us. It’s very common to become hypersexual, sex repulsed, or just have a very complicated relationship with sex after. #8 is just trolling I’ve reported all their comments

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Anonymous #10 7w

Let’s leave religious superiority out of this thanks ✨🙏🏻✨ it’s inconsiderate and belittling to so many survivors.

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Anonymous #3 7w

I agree. Let’s put religion aside — Jesus told us to do this too. The truth, however, will save you every time without failure ❤️

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tyty. i just think a lot of societies view on this stuff is ass backwards for all victims and it kinda bleeds through even if people dont mean to be shitty.

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Anonymous #20 7w

boooo we got a loserrrrr

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Anonymous OP 7w

Wdym? Based on what you said. That person won’t be ready for a romantic relationship until they are. And I’m not gonna help it by bringing my needs into the equation so I would step back and let them heal.

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Anonymous #20 7w

That’s not true. Love doesn’t equal sex. I know many asexual people who are in long term relationships that are happy and healthy.

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Anonymous #13 7w

Sure but that’s not me. It wouldn’t be fair to stay with someone who cant/wont find a way to move past that when I know what I’m going to want and need. They would be better without me weighing them down if that’s the case.

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Anonymous #20 7w

Yeah you’re able to have preferences and know what you need in a relationship. I’m just saying everybody is different and there’s no right or wrong way to be in a happy relationship.

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Anonymous #13 7w

And I would agree. But I also think that just because rape occurred doesn’t mean you can’t heal either.

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Anonymous #20 7w

boy we arent dating i feel like you're argument is kinda dumb

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Anonymous #5 7w

I love it when you girls misinterpret this shit. Bro this is not some “boys will be boys” bs. It’s an insult. This man is a child. He failed to progress past his infantile self and now he’s a sad man baby. Find you a MAN. Christ it’s not rocket surgery

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Anonymous #21 7w

This is a stupid ass take away. It’s not an “excuse”, it’s a reason. Do some self reflection dude, that’s messed up to say

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Anonymous #21 7w

Excuse for what exactly??? OP is just sharing their experience with sexual trauma so what exactly are they using it as an excuse for??? Sex isn’t owed to anyone

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Anonymous #16 6w

So you don’t hate men?

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Anonymous #26 6w

All but him duh… you must be a man

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Anonymous #16 6w

If you got off the app and social media you’d probably feel better and also not hate men as much.

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Anonymous #26 6w

What does social media have to do with personal experience? Never said it was cause I was chronically online

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Anonymous #16 6w

A lot of hate toward people who have done nothing wrong. Just saying go out and touch grass. You’d feel better than horny online men trying to meet you or whatever.

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Anonymous #26 6w

But it hasn’t been online is what I just said

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Anonymous #3 6w

To be fair it’s not really belittling or being inconsiderate. Just ways of comfort tbh

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Anonymous #26 6w

Not for everyone though

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Anonymous #16 6w

Yes but also a lot of people say how horrible men are but never get to really know any in person. Just saying for being on here for a few years and that’s the repeated subject. Men are disgusting etc. Maybe go make some more friends or have a more diverse friend group. Just a thought

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Anonymous #16 6w

I can also fully imagine that basically all those comments op is talking about is from online and not face to face.

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Anonymous #26 6w

What that gotta do with what I said you came at me then acted like you talking about in general

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Anonymous #26 6w

It’s not comfortable to say Jesus is the only man who can make you feel good again on a thread about someone’s SA being dismissed?? It’s actually really gross but I was trying to be nice.

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Anonymous #8 6w

The stupidest comment I have ever seen. Like how idiotic are you dude? Imagine if that shit happened to your mom, sister, cousin, friend, daughter. I wonder if that would be your response still. Fucking ridiculous that people with stupid dumb responses exist fucking think before you speak

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Anonymous #21 6w

You are so fucked up for that response. Literally no words can comprehend how idiotic you sound.

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Anonymous #20 6w

Healing takes a while, it just does not happen like that and even if some people really do try it is still hard. I get it you got preferences and that chill but choose your words wisely because saying like “grow out of it” is not the right way to put it. It is like you are belittling them even if that is not your intention. Just choose your words wisely when speaking your piece just an advice fam

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Anonymous #27 6w

Healing takes awhile. Let Jesus take the wheel and he’ll supernaturally heal you, Amen!

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Anonymous #27 6w

Grow past not “grow out of”. understand that even best case some scars stay.

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Anonymous #20 6w

*I understand

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Anonymous OP 6w

Your not you’re. If you’re gonna invalidate a person’s perspective at least do it in a grammatically correct way.

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Anonymous #3 6w

Someone’s SA wasn’t being dismissed. Jesus, a supernatural being, has the ability to comfort and heal them. There was no dismissal of the SA — the SA is disgusting and person who did it should be rightfully called out.

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Anonymous #10 6w

….and locked away. But for some reason we let these people walk the streets and continue doing what they do

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