Anonymous #1 42w

Let’s not demean their actions by calling them “boys” they are grown men who know and understand exactly what they’re saying. I’m tired of hearing this even if it I just trying to be supportive.

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Anonymous #11 42w

thanks bae

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Anonymous #5 42w

I think this is more demeaning them as people by calling them immature, emotionally stunted, pieces of shit by comparing them to children rather than trying to lessen what they did by saying it was a childish action

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Because I don’t have sex due to being raped in my childhood??? Put 2 and 2 together please

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Anonymous #13 42w

So you just don’t have sex with anybody?

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Anonymous #8 42w

NO asshat, people who’ve been raped can still have sexlives but theyre gonna respond differently to intimacy than someone who doesn’t have trauma. Some may cope with sex and others may cope by staying abstinent. If you had basic human decency you would understand that they’re opening up about their trauma as an EXPLANATION and NOT and excuse as to why they don’t want to have sex. So many men take it so fucking personally, like jeez just respect that people have trauma

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Also, if u get attacked by a bear in the woods, you’re gonna feel some type of way about entering a forest again after that attack. The brain creates certain defense mechanisms against trauma. It all depends on the person

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Anonymous #6 42w

Yeah like sa survivors can have sex lives but it’s still going to effect us. It’s very common to become hypersexual, sex repulsed, or just have a very complicated relationship with sex after. #8 is just trolling I’ve reported all their comments

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Anonymous #10 42w

Let’s leave religious superiority out of this thanks ✨🙏🏻✨ it’s inconsiderate and belittling to so many survivors.

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Anonymous #3 42w

I agree. Let’s put religion aside — Jesus told us to do this too. The truth, however, will save you every time without failure ❤️

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tyty. i just think a lot of societies view on this stuff is ass backwards for all victims and it kinda bleeds through even if people dont mean to be shitty.

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Anonymous #20 42w

boooo we got a loserrrrr

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Anonymous OP 42w

Wdym? Based on what you said. That person won’t be ready for a romantic relationship until they are. And I’m not gonna help it by bringing my needs into the equation so I would step back and let them heal.

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Anonymous #20 42w

That’s not true. Love doesn’t equal sex. I know many asexual people who are in long term relationships that are happy and healthy.

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Anonymous #13 42w

Sure but that’s not me. It wouldn’t be fair to stay with someone who cant/wont find a way to move past that when I know what I’m going to want and need. They would be better without me weighing them down if that’s the case.

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Anonymous #20 42w

Yeah you’re able to have preferences and know what you need in a relationship. I’m just saying everybody is different and there’s no right or wrong way to be in a happy relationship.

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Anonymous #13 42w

And I would agree. But I also think that just because rape occurred doesn’t mean you can’t heal either.

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Anonymous #20 42w

boy we arent dating i feel like you're argument is kinda dumb

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Anonymous #5 42w

I love it when you girls misinterpret this shit. Bro this is not some “boys will be boys” bs. It’s an insult. This man is a child. He failed to progress past his infantile self and now he’s a sad man baby. Find you a MAN. Christ it’s not rocket surgery

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Anonymous #21 42w

This is a stupid ass take away. It’s not an “excuse”, it’s a reason. Do some self reflection dude, that’s messed up to say

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Anonymous #21 42w

Excuse for what exactly??? OP is just sharing their experience with sexual trauma so what exactly are they using it as an excuse for??? Sex isn’t owed to anyone

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Anonymous #16 42w

So you don’t hate men?

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Anonymous #26 42w

All but him duh… you must be a man

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Anonymous #16 42w

If you got off the app and social media you’d probably feel better and also not hate men as much.

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Anonymous #26 42w

What does social media have to do with personal experience? Never said it was cause I was chronically online

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Anonymous #16 42w

A lot of hate toward people who have done nothing wrong. Just saying go out and touch grass. You’d feel better than horny online men trying to meet you or whatever.

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Anonymous #26 42w

But it hasn’t been online is what I just said

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Anonymous #3 42w

To be fair it’s not really belittling or being inconsiderate. Just ways of comfort tbh

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Anonymous #26 42w

Not for everyone though

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Anonymous #16 42w

Yes but also a lot of people say how horrible men are but never get to really know any in person. Just saying for being on here for a few years and that’s the repeated subject. Men are disgusting etc. Maybe go make some more friends or have a more diverse friend group. Just a thought

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Anonymous #16 42w

I can also fully imagine that basically all those comments op is talking about is from online and not face to face.

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Anonymous #26 42w

What that gotta do with what I said you came at me then acted like you talking about in general

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Anonymous #26 42w

It’s not comfortable to say Jesus is the only man who can make you feel good again on a thread about someone’s SA being dismissed?? It’s actually really gross but I was trying to be nice.

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Healing takes awhile. Let Jesus take the wheel and he’ll supernaturally heal you, Amen!

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Grow past not “grow out of”. understand that even best case some scars stay.

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Anonymous #20 42w

*I understand

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Anonymous OP 42w

Your not you’re. If you’re gonna invalidate a person’s perspective at least do it in a grammatically correct way.

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Anonymous #3 42w

Someone’s SA wasn’t being dismissed. Jesus, a supernatural being, has the ability to comfort and heal them. There was no dismissal of the SA — the SA is disgusting and person who did it should be rightfully called out.

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Anonymous #10 42w

….and locked away. But for some reason we let these people walk the streets and continue doing what they do

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