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Confessions 14w
Anyone that can help with what's going on. I have been talking to this guy for two months, but he doesn't wanna make things official. He says that there has been so many small issues. I had to explain that having BPD would change be dif (MORE BELOW)
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Anonymous 14w

so i’ve actually been on his side, i’ve dated a guy with bpd and kept putting off being official dawg he just doesn’t want something long term with you but he likes the attention you give him. 100x easier said than done but drop him

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Anonymous 14w

He didn't realize how difficult it is for me to manage BPD. Like for all the people that have what I have is just very hard, I am working on it but still. He still wants me to be by his side as things are, meaning no commitment.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

He gave me an option of staying like this the entire summer and seeing if he wants to date me. But I just cant. I'm very serious about this. I really want it. But it makes me feel like he kinda doesn't. What do I do?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

No leave. He is being incredibly disrespectful. If he can not respect your wishes and try his best to make a decision , or he needs to walk away and not drag it out. I know it may be hard and youll be focused on the what ifs for a decent amount of time.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Making it official by just dating is still pretty open and learning more about each other. Everyone’s so scared of the title but it doesn’t make you married. He’s def.using you for the attention like #1 said, it’s harder on yourself to continue that.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

“seeing if he wants to date you” yeah so if he really wanted to, y’all would be official. he’s taking advantage of the fact you’re attached for attention and to regulate his own self esteem. this is going to be blunt but just please have some self respect and drop him, you deserve better than this

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

He’s not interested in dating you, pursue other options

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

Why did you put it off? Was he too much? No therapy?

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