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Told him I don’t want children he called me selfish I broke up with him and I feel no guilt nor shame

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Anonymous 1w

um how is not wanting children selfish??? the people who DO want children are the real selfish ones. because can you give me a reason to have kids that isn’t inherently selfish and irrational

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Anonymous 1w

not wanting children (or wanting) is not selfish. you made the right decision breaking up w him. period queen

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Anonymous 1w

I think you guys may have both been a bit immature, but I don’t know the context

Anonymous 1w

Brother dodged a bullet here

Anonymous 1w

i’m proud of you bc what

Anonymous 1w

Period

Anonymous 1w

As you FUCKIN SHOULD.

Anonymous 1w

Genuine question but why did you date someone when you two didn’t agree on your stances of having kids

Anonymous 1w

Both of yall aren’t inherently in the wrong. yall have 2 different expectations and they didn’t work out. no one was the “bad guy” here

Anonymous 1w

knowing that you don’t want to bring another life into this world is selfless. if you know that you don’t want them for whatever reason, it’s good that you won’t have them. kids aren’t for everyone and that’s okay. good on you for not letting him get to you.

Anonymous 1w

Period. Clock that!!! ❤️ so proud of you

Anonymous 1w

Enforcing the idea that having children is morally correct leads to people having children despite unstable financial and environmental conditions. Those who are in current unstable financial and environmental conditions were more likely to be raised in similar conditions themselves and experience chronic stress. This means they are more likely to abuse their children. It also means that both parent and child are more likely be homeless, commit crime, or commit sucide.

Anonymous 1w

Not selfish but it’s definitely a red flag for the relationship on both sides

Anonymous 1w

HELL YES!!!

Anonymous 1w

Period queen

Anonymous 1w

Everyone disagreeing is wild to me. How is it selfish that I don’t want to risk passing on my mental illness to someone?

Anonymous 1w

I told my Mormon boyfriend I don’t want kids even though he does and he has stuck with me

Anonymous 1w

lol what

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Anonymous 1w

My high school biology teacher told everyone one time “if you’re able to have kids and you don’t have them then you’re a biological failure“ 😭😭

Anonymous 1w

Not wanting children is soooo valid “in this economy”…that’s my response for everything now! In & out “in this economy?” New-Js “in this economy?”

Anonymous 1w

He has every right to not like it either. Good break up. Clearly not compatible on both sides

Anonymous 1w

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Anonymous 1w

Dm me

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Anonymous 1w

You are the problem with western demographics

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Anonymous 1w

Turtle desk

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Anonymous 1w

Date a woman then

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Anonymous 1w

you’re evil and don’t deserve a husband then

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Anonymous

#1 1w

clock it

Anonymous

#3 1w

Up until this generation giving something life was seen as super selfless and morally upright.

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Anonymous

#10 1w

i’m guessing that this is probably the first time they talked about it. they don’t agree and so OP broke up up with him. they aren’t dating anymore. not everyone talks about kids and stuff like that on the first date. it comes out over time

Anonymous

#4 1w

And the sad thing is most people don’t even care about that

Anonymous

#12 1w

Nah that’s something that should be talked within the first date. It’s part of knowing if you two are compatible. Of course things change though and people might change their stance about wanting or not wanting kids overtime

Anonymous 1w

You’re probably talking about yourself

Anonymous 1w

Nah I just think that if you and your couple have different life goals, you prob shouldn’t be with them

Anonymous

#15 1w

i don’t think the first date necessarily but if you’re looking for a serious relationship than definitely within the first few dates or so. if you’re not looking for something super serious then i don’t think it needs to be discussed so soon

Anonymous

#20 1w

Booo

Anonymous

#20 1w

It’s her choice if she wants kids or not you idiot

Anonymous 1w

Speaking about yourself actually

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Anonymous

#22 1w

The only way I could do that was if tyou were in a hurry and you didn’t have time for it I was just going through my car to go get it so you can go to work I was going through the garage door open the garage and then you could come back to my house to go get the key to my truck so that you don’t need me there to do the ooo

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Anonymous

#17 1w

not for long 🤣

Anonymous

#10 1w

We talked about it and I was clear from the start I don’t want children, he acted as if he was okay with it. Well almost 4 years in he now wants to be a father and called me selfish for nothing wanting to be a mom. I did the selfless thing and let him go.

Anonymous

#19 1w

Yk I actually have dated a woman and do love women

Anonymous

#25 1w

how’s it a red flag on her side

Anonymous

#24 1w

He wants kids. If he stays with her he doesn’t get them and he gets resentment. She doesn’t want kids. Either they don’t have them and he gets resentment or she relents and gets resentment. Of course, one of them could switch their mindset and they’d be happy. But it’s a red flag for both because it’s the one thing that you can’t compromise on. Either someone will have resentment for not getting their choice or they break up.

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Anonymous

#27 1w

(And this comment section is cursed… wow people…)

Anonymous

#20 1w

How is it evil to not have kids? It’s not her one job in life to give a man children, be so fr.

Anonymous

#30 1w

Why? Some women just don’t want to go through the difficulty of pregnancy and also don’t want to take care of kids or know they won’t be a good parent. Nothing wrong with that

Anonymous

#30 1w

you sound like an incel

Anonymous

#24 1w

I am

Anonymous

#7 1w

yep

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Anonymous

OP 1w

hell yeah! that is responsible and mature and selfless as fuck to let him go. he can go find someone who wants kids and you don’t have to be with someone who would call you selfish for not changing your stance on wanting kids

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Anonymous

#3 1w

to be innovators and the future of the world

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Anonymous

#4 1w

Fuck them kids

Anonymous

#32 1w

Fuck them kids

Anonymous

#4 1w

i don’t understand, how does that line of thinking work at all?

Anonymous

#30 1w

well you’re going to be womanless for the rest of your life

Anonymous

#24 1w

FUCK THEM KIDS

Anonymous

#32 1w

it’s not like EVERYONE isn’t having kids. this is one person. the population will be fine so stfu and stop trying to bully women into having kids

Anonymous

#24 1w

You could change that

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Anonymous

#32 1w

the world we are taking oh so good care of so ensure a prosperous and happy life for them? give me a break, total collapse of major environmental structures is expected to happen as early as 2040. you’re just popping out innocent kids into an increasingly dysfunctional and cruel world.

Anonymous

#3 1w

exactly 🤧🤧

Anonymous

#32 1w

also, we already have enough innovators on the planet right now. unfortunately, most of them are trapped in horrible living conditions that prevents them from using their power and intellect for good. think of how many einsteins and madame curies have died an are dying in poverty right now? we need to focus on improving the quality of life for all humans in the world before introducing more to needless suffering.

Anonymous

#3 1w

Having kids is inherently selfish?? How about nurturing, providing for, putting another being’s needs above your own? I can understand how some aspects of wanting children can be seen as selfish and in certain contexts in can be irrational but other than that saying wanting kids is selfish is crazy to me

Anonymous

#35 1w

selfish- caring about yourself selfless- putting others above you

Anonymous

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Anonymous

#33 1w

As Dm me

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Anonymous

#29 1w

yeah he has the right to not like her stance on it but he doesn’t have the right to be mean about it. especially since it was previously communicated that OP didn’t want kids

Anonymous

#30 1w

get kirkd?

Anonymous

#30 1w

i’m gonna get you pregnant and see how you like it

Anonymous

#35 6d

but WHY do you want them? is it just so you can have the experience of nurturing and caring for something? if so, that’s still a selfish reason. it’s for YOURSELF.

Anonymous

#24 6d

selfish = for your interests selfless = for the interests of others/a collective