On top of this, I just thought porn was really boring, so what I did was start reading doujins. Dude seriously try it. It can go from like a short 4 page panel to a literal dictionary of a story arch, and half the time you forget it’s even porn because it can just turn into a genuinely well written story. There’s a reason people say they read it for the plot. And the best part is most doujin artists are just random people doing it for fun, not some ass industry abusing people.
32F here, same 😔 there are things I’ve gotten into as a way to cope with SA that I feel like I can’t look up because I know the women on the other side are probably being treated like shit. It takes me soooo long to admit to partners what works because I’m afraid they’ll judge me so hard for it.
I think just look up any website that has "porn comics" on it (another being Nhentai) and you should be good. I do wanna warn you, doujins are a really big spectrum. There can be REALLY weird shit on there, but also some really sweet things, you just have to search for the stuff YOU like.
Appreciate it 💖 I only do fwb for now and it’s typically someone I’ve known for a while. Current guy doesn’t know my details but he double checks consent before even taking his shirt off and I can’t say how much that alleviates any anxiety I have about it. I’m glad guys that think like u are out there, empathy is severely lacking these days