Anonymous #2 2w

that’s hot

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Anonymous #3 2w

I hate when men are men…

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Anonymous #2 2w

i’m asexual

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Anonymous #3 2w

Oh haha I love that!!! I take it back:)

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Anonymous #4 2w

Things take time sometimes you get attached and your waiting for the right time to leave or for them to change miraculously. Doesn’t mean she intended on it when they got together. She probably intended for him to be good to her and not make her feel the need to post this.

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Anonymous #2 2w

The amount of hoops you jump through and assumptions made to make her seem like this HAS to be good actions on her part is actually insane. The infantilisation of women such to believe no ill intent can ever occur is 1) literally misogynistic and is talked about in feminist books that a lot of “feminists” nowadays clearly don’t read and 2) an actually naive and dangerous way of thinking.

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Anonymous #4 2w

You completely misread my comment and went off on some lecture that has nothing to do with what I said. I wasn’t excusing anyone’s behavior. I was pointing out that people sometimes hold on hoping things change. Turning that into a rant about feminism and “infantilizing women” is just you arguing with something I never wrote. All that energy for a point nobody made.

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Anonymous #2 2w

It really isn’t, because genuinely wtf is “the right time to leave”? If she knows she wants to break up, it’s ALREADY the right time unless there are particular safety related circumstances. Your answer assumes those kinds of circumstances over acknowledging it’s just as likely that she’s exploiting the guy.

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Anonymous #4 2w

You keep arguing against points I never made. Saying people sometimes stay because they’re attached or hope things change does not = “ignoring exploitation”or “infantilizing women.” You’re so busy forcing extra interpretations onto my words that you’re debating yourself at this point, not me.

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Anonymous #2 2w

My point is just that you’re assuming those things that are fairly reasonable answers when bad intentions are equally likely and we should hear it from OP. I apologize for my dogshit communication and appreciate your patience with me.

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Anonymous #4 2w

He’s going through a stressful time & asked if we don’t break up rn, which I can respect. But I already told him I don’t see long term with him. He’s done some fked up things to be that I’ll never be able to forgive. 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous OP 2w

Oh I see. That’s very sweet of you for staying with him, and honestly a fairly selfish request on his part. I’d suggest having a firm “due date” in mind for the that you don’t delay past. Whether or not you communicate that to him is up to your discretion.

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Anonymous OP 2w

I’ve been in that same place where I set a date to finally leave, and it ended up being harder than I thought it would be. But honestly, if you already know you can’t forgive what he did, the kindest thing for yourself is to let go. It’s tough when you love someone and don’t want to see them hurt, but they didn’t think about that when they hurt you. Without consequences, there’s no real growth…and without growth, nothing changes.

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