Anonymous #1 6w

i have, but when i point it out she truly doesn’t see the problem w how she lives. i’ve gone to her house the day after she cleaned before n there were so many empty water bottles all over, garbage filled to the brim, a bunch of plates in the sink. she’s the same w her BO, she’s told me she doesn’t smell although she definitely does, n what makes it worse is she wears sweaters in AZ heat 😭 and she’s a hair stylist on top of that. ik it’s hard to adapt to living alone bc her mom js randomly

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Anonymous OP 6w

moved out of her house, but that was over a year ago. she still hasn’t really figured out how to put her money towards priorities either, like she’s more concerned ab saving up for a switch 2 instead of being proactive on getting things she needs for her house. i get that it sucks to put your money towards not fun things, but then when she needs them she spends her whole paycheck for the week on them and struggles to figure out food leading up to her next paycheck. i love her to death but she

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Anonymous OP 6w

doesn’t listen or says my recommendations for making things easier won’t work, even though i’ve been working through MDD and living alone too.

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Anonymous OP 6w

yeah she’s nose blind so she can’t smell how bad everything is that’s why 😭 personally if me or my house smelt bad i’d wanna know. i’d keep commenting on the smells and not replying to any of her cleaning complaints. maybe even stop going to her place and distance urself. if she’s too set in her ways she has to deal with the consequences

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Anonymous #1 6w

bro she talks shit ab those people to me bc i’m not the only one who’s said anything. we’ve had other friends mention it multiple times n she js goes to me n says “idk why those guys say my house/i smell bad like i smell fine they’re js assholes” and tbf they’ve all ben objectively evil people but they were also right. i don’t want to leave her behind either bc like she’s the only person who was there for me after my abusive ex n through sm shit in my life. it’s js so hard bc i love her but she

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Anonymous OP 6w

won’t take any criticism regarding her cleanliness bc of one reason or another

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Anonymous #2 6w

but like i offer and she says there’s no issue like she believes her home is clean i don’t understand it. she uses not having any money as an excuse to postpone cleanliness but she saving for a switch 2 like that money can go to making your life easier i don’t know how to help you when you complain because of this

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Anonymous OP 6w

Just need to have a heart to heart or intervention and be like “I love you, but it really truly is getting bad in here” and if she asks how, start pointing things out. Like my level of regular clean is different from others, but there’s a difference between needing to vacuum and fold laundry and trash laying everywhere

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Anonymous #2 6w

yeah you’re right, its just hard to muster the strength to talk to her ab fixing this bc ive always been the one that needed fixing. bad taste in partners, money problems, family problems, sometimes when i try to tell her things she shuts me down bc of that. it’s normally js when she’s super stressed out but even still. it might end up working out in the end though bc it sounds like her moms moving back in w her bc of her own relationship issues.

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