Anonymous #2 13w

Same

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Anonymous #1 13w

it just really sucks. it’s all about her husband who is very obviously cheating on her and she’s aware, treats her like crap and is always making her watch THEIR kids. she complains about it all the time and knows she wants a divorce but then he does one thing that makes her happy and “everything is fine now!” 😐 like I don’t want to have to cut her off because it’s a serious situation but like, my mental health matters too and she doesn’t realize it’s affecting the entire friend group either

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Anonymous OP 13w

it’s incredibly hard to leave certain situations especially when love is involved im sure in her core she knows she needs to leave but that one nice thing happening gives her a tiny bit of hope that it’s starting to get better love can be blinding and with marriage and kids being involved it makes it more difficult you can’t force someone to make the “right” decision but you can be a good friend and be supportive and understanding it sounds like that’s what she really needs at this time :/

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Anonymous #4 13w

The problem is that she’s been with her man for 11 years and has known him since they were in elementary school and has been complaining about it since we’ve met her which was a little over a year ago; we’ve been super supportive of her and give her advice all the time. I have been in her position when it came to constantly hoping for change when it came to a relationship, and I know it’s a little harder since she’s actually married and has kids, but it gets to the point where our advice >

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Anonymous #4 13w

And support can only do so much if she’s refusing to actually accept our advice and support

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Anonymous OP 13w

We voice all the time we don’t like hearing how badly he treats her and she still brings it up even though we’ve tried to set boundaries. Not to mention she also flirts with anyone she finds attractive while still in this marriage, which we’ve also brought up to her. She literally told our friend that if she wasn’t married, she’d date her and that she’s basically in love with her, which just puts that friend in a weird position. It’s just a lot going on tbh

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Anonymous OP 13w

I feel like I MIGHT know this girl..like I know there's a 0.001 chance that we're thinking of the same person but still

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Anonymous #3 13w

Where does she live?

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Anonymous OP 13w

Stillwater

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Anonymous #3 13w

Yeeeah different person, would’ve been crazy if we were thinking of the same person tho lol

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Anonymous OP 13w

i totally understand where you’re coming from i’m not trying to argue im just trying to help you understand her side :) 11 years is a LONG time she probably doesn’t know her life or herself without this man. being on her own for the first time is a super scary thought she may not be happy but she’s familiar there’s no surprises or jump scares she knows what to expect and it’s what she’s been used to for over a decade

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Anonymous #4 13w

it’s like trying to break a nail biting habit but then when you’re getting close suddenly your nails turn into your favourite food for a day and then you start biting again lol it’s not easy leaving any relationship in general but it sounds like she needs even more support i understand it makes you sad to hear about her pain all the time but until she is actually ready to take that leap and break that habit on her own she needs to be able to talk to someone about it and her friends removing

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Anonymous #4 13w

that support from her life might make it more difficult because she could feel like she won’t have any support when she does leave and she’ll be completely alone. obviously idk anything about hers or your lives besides what you’ve stated here im mostly basing this off of personal experience but please try to hold out for her don’t make her feel like a burden it may feel like she’s ignoring you but she does need you

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