Maybe yours needs more trust or being more careful on what you say because it will hurt your partner and then there’s no respect there. Maybe your bf needs to focus on the little things. It’s always good to stay calm about it. Your bf could say things that are a problem or uncomfortable and you have to hear him and understand so he can do the same for you, part of respect. If it’s not going anywhere then your kinda stuck in a loop and it will only hurt your relationship more.