Anonymous #1 1d

I know. But it’s also a legal acknowledgment that my wife and I are committed to each other, which has its advantages. Plus, it’d just be nice to have. I don’t even want a fancy ceremony or anything. I just want to hop down to city hall, sign a paper, grab some Applebees to celebrate, and know that my wife and I just agreed to spend the rest of our lives together. Most other people can do that. Just bums me out that I can’t, is all.

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Anonymous #2 1d

Why would it be less beneficial for men than for women?

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Anonymous OP 1d

Also it’s less the legal benefits and more an emotional thing. I’d just like to know we have that commitment to each other. It would be nice, I love my wife, I wouldn’t mind something in writing that documents that love. I know that sounds silly to some people, but it’s how I feel.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Nah it’s all good man not silly at all.

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Anonymous OP 1d

So mainly cause the woman can divorce the guy and get minimum half his assets. Can also get full custody of the kids even if she is a terrible mother. Theres lots more but those are the main things

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Anonymous #2 1d

The custody thing I’ll give you, many states do tend to favor mothers in custody battles. The assets case that’s not really a gender thing, if you are splitting assets whoever makes more money ends up giving up more, which is not always the man. Also it’s not super relevant for me because I’m poor and on disability lol, there wouldn’t be anything to take.

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Anonymous #3 1d

It’s so annoying. My wife doesn’t make anywhere near enough to support both of us on their own, and for some reason the government understands that if we’re “roommates.” But if we got married, poof. Suddenly we’re supposed to make one person’s income stretch to support two people.

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Anonymous #2 1d

So the benefits all lay in divorce, not marriage. Marriage does tend to benefit men more, women a bit Divorce does tend to favor women and be better for women

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Anonymous #4 1d

Legitimately how does marriage benefit men?

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Anonymous OP 1d

Also even if the women makes more there’s alimony the guy has to pay

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Anonymous #2 1d

That’s not how alimony works. Alimony is based on income.

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Anonymous OP 1d

My bad I mixed up alimony with child support sorry

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Anonymous #2 1d

I like how I got downvoted just for asking a question haha I’m asking from a place of curiosity. Like in this day and age how does marriage benefit the man?

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Anonymous #2 1d

The same way it benefits women. Tax benefits, sometimes insurance ones, emotional value, etc.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Ok so how is that different from like say marrying a man?

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Anonymous #2 1d

? I don’t understand the question.

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Anonymous OP 1d

So like what does a woman bring to a marriage that’s unique to them?

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Anonymous #2 1d

They don’t bring anything “unique”. Men and women both bring companionship, love, and support. There’s not a specific special lady thing that makes marrying them super awesome. Are you implying dudes should just marry each other? Nobody’s stopping you from marrying your homies bro.

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Anonymous #2 1d

Huh bro are you okay, “what do women bring to a marriage that’s unique to them”. What do men bring to marriage that’s unique to them, do you not hear how that sounds.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Right but like from a woman’s perspective they are typically getting a provider, protector, handyman in some cases, and someone that they expect to do a lot of things they wouldn’t want to do. So like what is unique to woman in a marriage? Cause like you can stay in a committed relationship and that’s good enough

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Anonymous #3 1d

I’m not asking it from a malicious place just general question. I responded with some things men bring to a marriage or rather that is expected from a husband. However since the traditional value wife is seen as toxic what does a woman bring to the modern marriage now?

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Anonymous #2 1d

Women can also be providers, handy around the home, and do things their husbands wouldn’t want to do. As I already stated, I’m on disability, my wife makes more money than me. My mother makes twice as much as her husband. My wife and I split all chores, fixing appliances, etc evenly. Both partners bring equal effort to a relationship.

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Anonymous #2 1d

Homie this is the most unhandy generation of men to exist not to disparage other generations they also had unhandy men too but like no.

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Anonymous #2 1d

“A traditional value wire is seen as toxic” bro what are you talking about you sound so sexist rn

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Anonymous #3 1d

Literally said “in some cases” might help to read

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Anonymous OP 1d

You do know the definition of sexist right? Cause all I’ve heard is most women don’t want to be a traditional wife that does cooking cleaning for the household. Granted it’s social media so that can definitely skew it but still. I’m not trying to be malicious. I’m just genuinely asking a question

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Anonymous OP 1d

For sure women can be the providers! This is not a cookie cutter fit every scenario! There are unique situations. I’m talking about just based on traditional values

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Anonymous #2 1d

Most women who don’t want to be a “traditional wife” also don’t care much about having a “traditional husband.” As you said, this is not a cookie cutter scenario. I cannot give you a sweeping judgement of what women bring to a marriage because women, like men, are individuals and all bring different things to the relationship.

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Anonymous #2 1d

Married men statistically live longer, have healthier lifestyles, are less likely to engage in risky behaviors, and have a 46% lower risk of cardiovascular disease (compared to unmarried men). They're less likely to commit suicide, have lower depression rates, and report higher rates of general happiness. They earn 10-40% more than unmarried men, and are more likely to get promoted at work. To start.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Right but I’m talking about majority of the time. Also true but it seems like most women want a full traditional husband just want the provider, protector, and general stuff that’s beneficial to them. While also not wanting to be traditional women themselves. Essentially wanting their cake and eating it too. Like you can’t want a traditional relationship but only when it’s beneficial

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Anonymous #4 1d

Right these are stats and I can agree with that. But like what are the wives doing to say help support the stats?

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Anonymous #2 1d

You’re making a lot of sweeping statements about women that in my experience are not true in the slightest.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Key part is “in my experience”

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Anonymous #2 1d

Yes, I'm using my own experiences to practice cognitive empathy. Everyone is different, and it might not at all work like that for some ppl, but it certainly works like that with a lot of people Bc it's basic psychology/neurology, neural pathways are built and strengthened through repeated experience. The more a certain sort of individual presents themself in a certain way to you, the more your brain is wired to view them that way. Like if your friend Mark slaps you every time you see him-

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Anonymous #4 1d

You might start hating Mark. Or at least you're gonna be on edge around Mark and start expecting some sort of attack. You might even become wary of anyone named Mark! That's the type of thing I'm talking about

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Anonymous #4 1d

Right right I majored in psychology I get it. The problem is that in this case Mark is one person. So it’s still not good to distill Mark down to like one core aspect and do a blanket statement like because Mark is a man and he has repeatedly done some sort of harm then all men are going to do the same. That’s where I think a big problem happens

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