bro i don’t think i could ever be nonchalant or be with anyone who’s nonchalant

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It’s detrimental to everything else too…clubbing/partying/etc isn’t fun anymore because too many people are afraid of getting caught being ‘cringe’. Peer pressure is extending beyond high school years and it’s awful! Suchhhh a turn off too, why would anyone want to be with someone that has the emotional depth of a puddle?

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I am a guy and I truly don’t understand it (I assume we’re talking mostly about men, I don’t observe nearly the same in women but i could be wrong). It makes it really hard to just talk and make friends sometimes. I feel like a lot of my recent good friends have been not men because mfs can’t just express themselves or be vulnerable.

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what can i do if im a girl and im just naturally nonchalant and have been that way since childhood? ppl say i come off like i think im “too cool”, but this really is just how i’ve always been… i want to come off as warmer, but it always seems so forced when i try this has me stressed for the longest time, i’d love genuine advice ty

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Everything is recorded. Why don’t people like drinking? Probably because it’s going on the internet if they do something stupid and they can be arrested based on THAT video evidence as well. You can’t just “get away” with anything socially or legally anymore. Society has been forced to dial it back in order to succeed.

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this nonchalant stuff and peer pressure just doesn’t work on me. if I want to do something I’ll do it, or if I don’t want to do something I won’t. Other people’s beliefs of what I should or shouldn’t do or how I should express myself don’t really matter to me. And I avoid anyone who tries to act nonchalant or tries to peer pressure people into acting a certain way, and im much happier.

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