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Confessions 6w
Had a girl say one time tell me she wanted to stop seeing me because “the highs were really high but the lows were..low” as if I was a product to review lol Mind you I was just very depressed at the time because I lost a job I loved. People suck…
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Anonymous 6w

to a point it’s fair though. i think it’s definitely important that partners help each other as much as they can w their mental states, but at the end of the day she needs to take care of herself and vice versa. if she js didn’t wanna deal w it that’s another thing, but i’ve had partners who’ve made their depression their only personality trait around me despite being able to be happy w others, it’s taxing n really painful when nothing you do to try to help works :(

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Anonymous 6w

Ngl I've been on the other end of this. Not the dumping-him-and-getting-with-my-ex part, really sorry that happened to you man. But I was with someone nearly two years and desperately loved him, but I kept prioritizing his depression and anxiety over my own. And I had that exact thought - the highs were high but the lows were too low. I needed stability and someone that cared abt me equally, so even though it was painful I broke up the relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

Thanks for the thoughtful reply. For context, she just dumped me and went back with her ex. Not much I can do to think highly of her. I admit the depression I had was heavy but what she did was betray my trust and fractured my heart. Didn’t make my depression any better 🙃 Still, 3 years later I haven’t found someone else that I had a deeper connection with. She was afraid and ended up making a decision for comfort instead of taking a risk of truly loving someone. Wanting only good isn’t right

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

yeah that definitely sucks, i’m sorry she did that. n ik 3 years sucks but maybe that’s good, you can get into hobbies, look into the things that further your depression, and grow as a person both for yourself and you future partner :) ive had nothing but abusive relationships so after my last one ended i took this year to look inward and focus on improving myself so that hopefully this year i can be someone that attracts good people, not people who hurt me. it sucks so much being alone but once

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

you figure it out it’s kind of nice to be alone with yourself, remember who you are and find who you’d like to be, you got this king 🫶

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

Ofc that doesn't necessarily match with what happened to you. Hope you're doing better now, like #1 said

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

But just generally, that sentiment might sometimes just be true

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

It’s definitely been a journey 😅 Thank you!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

Yeah, she did want/need stability and I wasn’t in a place to provide that. We came from similar humble backgrounds growing up so we initially became friends over that. For more tea, she was actually with the guy at the time. She initially wanted to do stuff on the side but I had her break up with him before we did anything. Boy was I stupid 😓 Love really is blind lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

It really is 😭

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