Anonymous #1 16w

Do men even protect themselves and each other these days? Your question is the kind of question that drives away people, and then you go and say some shit like this and blame other people for the way you feel.

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Anonymous OP 16w

In my defense, everyone is over entitled these days myself included. The dating Norms are all over the place now and days, there are more women than not who just expect men to be what society expects them to be without holding themselves to the same standards. Women I’m my experiences at least want a husband (at least the duty’s of one) right away without giving The same “wife” perks. Don’t get me wrong I’m the same way I want a woman who is going to cook and clean for me and make my house a

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Anonymous #1 16w

Home absolutely! And I’m going to give the same efforts back. I love spoiling my woman and providing for her, I just expect the same efforts in return and it just seems like more women than men feel entitled to that treatment without the same efforts

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Anonymous OP 16w

And you’re absolutely right, there is no man to man support. Just have to “rub some dirt on it” and keep moving. Men aren’t suspsoe to be “weak” or be sensitive because that’s unacceptable and unattractive in the general public. There is a mental health pandemic for both genders but men definitely have less of a safe space in general

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Anonymous OP 16w

But back to your main point, you’re absolutely right. There is a lot of delusion going on with people thinking they are better than they are. Especially on the men side.

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Anonymous #1 16w

It’s definitely about perspective and experience. Because I’ve experienced much more of the opposite. But I hope you also recognize how inappropriate the response was you gave when you could’ve just said this. I’m not going to pretend I’m your type of person. I have no interest in being someone’s traditional wife, so that’s not me. I’m not looking for someone who’s going to treat me like a damsel in distress and ask me to cook. More so, not be what I need the most safety and protecting from…

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Anonymous #1 16w

I think men need less of a “man up and shut up” environment and more of a “speak up it okay”. Because it’s nothing weak or “unattractive” about taking care of your mental health. You guys aren’t robots. Mental healthcare is prevention in so many aspects of our life. The male suicide rate is so high, and there’s nothing weak about opening up about it.

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Anonymous #1 16w

The idea that showing heavy and vulnerable emotions besides anger is what’s acceptable for men is just so unhealthy for everyone. It hurts you so much. And the fact that society has associated attraction with emotion is fucking absurd.

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Anonymous OP 16w

You’re right I did go on a tangent

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Anonymous OP 16w

It absolutely is absurd, I wish people were more compassionate and comfortable talking about their emotions. It feels so tabbo

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Anonymous #1 16w

It’s never a comfortable thing to talk about feelings, but people hardly create comfortable spaces for talking about it. I have cried, sobbed, laughed, and made some horrible jokes trying to explain the way I was feeling to my best friend. I was so uncomfortable talking about it. But she was so comforting on the receiving end and that’s what made it easier. We don’t do that enough. Make it easier for people to be uncomfortable.

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Anonymous OP 16w

Absolutely

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