Anonymous #1 5w

a narcissist has an inflated sense of self-importance, craves admiration, and lacks empathy, often manipulating others to get their way. an emotionally immature person might seem similar but usually acts out of insecurity, trouble regulating feelings, or poor self-awareness. emotional immaturity can improve with growth (they can acknowledge their flaws and work on them), while narcissism is more rigid and resistant to change.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Wow that’s a really great overview. Thank you for your reply!

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Anonymous #1 5w

of course! i’ve been seeing a therapist for a bit and i took some notes :)

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Anonymous OP 5w

Would love to hear your thoughts on this; person A: inflated sense of self importance, craves admiration, has empathy, doesn’t see other side, need to be right/understood, their way or the highway, argues to win not to solve issue - - person B: lacks empathy, insecure, trouble regulating feels, poor self awareness, incredibly emotionally manipulative but doesn’t realize it, unstable, can’t take accountability, victim blames but has victim complex - - who (if either) is the narcissist?

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Anonymous #1 5w

i mean person A for sure seems to be the narcissist based on the descriptions. i think the trouble for a lot of us comes down to being aware of someone’s motives and behaviors without letting our own emotional judgements cloud our perception, hence why a lot of us are quick to make an accusation. we assume the only reason why ppl would hurt us is bc they want to and it benefits them, not that they are more worried about themselves and how they feel.

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Anonymous #1 5w

Very interesting thank you! This is a real life situation and I think person a is more emotionally intelligent and uses it against person b, so that’s very possible they are the narc. Maybe with more details tho you’d feel differently. My personal opinion is that they both have narcissistic traits as a trauma response to being raised by slightly narc fathers. Thankfully for everyone the two are no longer in contact tho lmao ✌🏼

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Anonymous #1 5w

yea, humans are complex. even the explanations i provided were cookie cutter descriptions, so even if someone doesn’t seem to fit certain criteria, it really requires an in-depth analysis of someone’s behaviors, motives, and actions. plus, i’m definitely not a therapist or psychiatrist myself, so i wouldn’t even count on my own deductions. but what i can say is that emotional intelligence is a skill, and it needs to be studied and practiced so that we’re in touch with ourselves and others.

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