Oh most certainly. It isn’t really the cheating so much as it is having an aspect of my sexual life be socially taboo and rule breaking. It’s just that the clearest and easiest through line for that is cheating so I think about it to get off. I would never do anything physical, that would be horrific
I would def read the stainedglasswoman article “Beneath the surface” by Doc Impossible. It was the most liberating thing I’ve ever read when it comes to kink. For my above comment I was pointing out that its easier for most ppl to blame a kink than take responsibility. Doc Impossible talks about it there