Anonymous #1 7w

I want to meet someone who WANTS to be in a stable relationship

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Anonymous OP 7w

OR you can meet someone that you love and then figure out the rest later

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Anonymous #1 7w

Yeah I’d love to meet someone who I love and who loves me too, it would be nice to live together and do things and get to know our stories and where we want to be in the future

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Anonymous OP 7w

Well it’s much harder to find the right person if you’re filtering out people

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Anonymous #2 7w

Oh I guess I didn’t realize I was being rude? I don’t want to risk being with someone who is popular or well liked and end up not liking them on a personal level due to differences or outside drama I just want to fall mutually in love with someone and stay together through the thick and thin, even if it’s not the idea other people have in mind is what I’m trying to say

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Anonymous OP 7w

I know this isn’t what you normally think of when you here about objectifying someone, but you are totally objectifying your potential partner here

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Anonymous #1 7w

^Bingo.

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Anonymous OP 7w

You are describing their value to you as a list of tangibles rather than just loving them for whoever they end up being

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Anonymous #1 7w

Is it really filtering out people if they’re known to have other options?

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Anonymous OP 7w

Yes? That’s still filtering

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Anonymous #1 7w

Is it bad if I say I’m confused about how I’m objectifying my potential partner? I’m open to discover what he would be like as a person if we happen to get along based on how we interact with each other, even if the person doesn’t look conventionally attractive or has had multiple romantic relationships in the past. if misunderstandings come I’d hope to work it out, and if they end up being too difficult to work through overtime, honest conversation would suffice when it comes to ending it

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Anonymous OP 7w

It’s okay to not get it. Look dude, the thing is that love isn’t something you pick and choose. Saying you want someone that’s not hot is the same as saying you only want blondes. You’re making a two person relationship all about you

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Anonymous #1 7w

There’s nothing wrong with filtering people honestly, i just hope I get along with the person I’m with for a good amount of time

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Anonymous #1 7w

Ok I gave this some thought and I’m realizing I sound like “I only chose him because no one else technically will” I didn’t mean to come off that way, truly. I just want to be open minded and not use looks or popularity as a metric when choosing a partner. I want to say I chose the person because I fell in love with who he is, regardless of what others think. I want to be happy with who I chose and I hope the person is happy with me too, and we can remain as is or improve however we see fit

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Anonymous OP 7w

👍👍

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