
i used to be this way too! i don’t have any toys so idk if this was your experience, but i found i was going wayyy too hard way too fast and i’d have to stop bc it wouldn’t even feel good. it seems counterproductive but try slowing down a little and taking the pressure off of yourself :)
a guy’s perspective - i have had this happen to an ex of mine and it was because she craved the touch instead, so it was hard to get over that..but what helped was playing some music that got her in the mood and sometimes even sexting or talking dirty with someone online while trying