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virginity is a social construct and is heavily rooted in misogyny and purity culture
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Anonymous 5d

As a male virgin, I don't agree with that. It's like, sex has become so normalized and basically expected in every romantic relationship within the first month or so. It takes a certain kind of discipline or self control or belief or whatever the reason, to keep yourself from having sex with a partner and if a romantic partner is willing to question you, judge you, or make you uncomfortable about it then it's time to move on, goes in all directions.

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Anonymous 5d

fr if i’m expected to stay a virgin, my future partner better be one too

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Anonymous 5d

I’m a virgin (M) cuz ive only been in one relationship and it was long distance, so not really, I don’t agree

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Anonymous 5d

Wrong

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Anonymous 5d

i feel like this could be said more about sex than virginity.

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Anonymous 5d

I know a virgin, it’s not social. Don’t belittle his existence just because you want to be woke. Virginity is real, check your privilege.

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Anonymous 4d

I needed this ty🙏

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Anonymous 5d

A woman should be pure let’s be honest 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5d

Yeah, I’m gonna have to agree with #3 here. I think you’re wrong. It doesn’t have anything to do with misogyny, it has to do with attraction. Men are more attracted to girls who are virgins. Women are less attracted to men who are virgins. You’re just upset at this fact, because at the end of the day you’re gonna be less attracted to a virgin whether you like it or not.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5d

Except this isn’t true… women aren’t less attracted to men who are virgins- I think you’re thinking of the “I’m a virgin loser and no go girl wants to sleep with Me” but it’s more because those guys are incels and misogynists than the fact that they’re a virgin- slut shaming is something women have to deal with allll the time and guys are praised for it so it really is rooted in misogyny

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5d

you can have your opinions but OP is right. it literally stems from wanting to own a woman’s body and keep her “pure”. but absolutely sex should be done with someone you trust.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 5d

Except men are shamed as virgins

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 5d

There are many roots surrounding the concept of virginity, some of which do stem from a woman's purity and worth within a patriarchal society. However, given that this was thousands of years ago, there has been a shift in popular belief about virginity, and it seems really trivial to be concerned about it outside of a romantic relationship. It is an intimate concept. If you're with someone, you should discuss it privately. If you're promiscuous, then you forfeit the right to have a preference.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 5d

why is it just “a woman”?? why not everyone then??

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

It is everyone but the post says misogyny (that means towards women)

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4d

Yeah but from what I see (purely anecdotal) most of the shaming comes from men

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