Anonymous #2 5d

I think you misunderstand my need for emotional support for dependency on another person.

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Anonymous OP 5d

yes… bc u said you have a need for emotional support and clearly look for support through other people. try creating support systems for yourself bae

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Anonymous OP 5d

not saying your friends are in the right at all but you aren’t helping yourself with this behavior

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Anonymous #2 5d

I promise you if I could do that I would’ve already. Because you know what my support system looks like? Breaking down every chance I have and not being able to get better

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Anonymous OP 5d

clearly you don’t want to get better, most depressed people don’t bc it requires a serious effort. like i said, you have the power to implement support systems into your life that don’t involve texting friends and hoping they reply, and then posting about it on yikyak and hoping a stranger will comfort you

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Anonymous #2 5d

I’m so sick of people like you who instead of showing sympathy, give a stranger life advice that isn’t helpful to their situation and just makes them feel like the biggest burden for asking for help.

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lmao bye this is what you should say to ur friends. if u don’t wanna get better that’s entirely your choice. if you don’t wanna be a burden to people then don’t behave like one

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Hate to admit it but #2 is right u gotta do that shit on ur own depending on others is going to get u hurt and is a crutch. Get a therapist if u need to talk to someone

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Anonymous #3 5d

THEYRE ON WINTER BREAK 😭😭

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Anonymous OP 5d

Damn ask ai for help then that usually helps me😂

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Anonymous OP 5d

all of your excuses for not taking control are centered around the actions of other people. when are you gonna help yourself??? stop waiting around before you ruin ur own life

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Anonymous #2 5d

I’m sorry but you don’t know this persons situation so you do not have the right to tell them that they aren’t trying to work on themselves. Personally, I’ve only relied on myself my entire life and it’s broken me down so many times. I never used to reach out to friends or other people for help, and now that I do, I feel much more supported. Yes, I agree that internal work is at play as well because I had to work on myself to build trust in other people and that is a crucial to self improvement.

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Anonymous #4 5d

I also wouldn’t directly ask for help because then only one person is receiving from the friendship. I typically ask to hang out and, together we discuss the things we are both struggling with. This is a perfect way to build empathy and to work on yourself while helping others. Just remember you don’t want to burden one person with all of your issues which is why therapy additionally is generally a good idea.

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Anonymous #4 5d

i think we are both projecting our experiences onto this post😭 and i kind of felt bad leaving my original comment but i actually agreed with myself the more OP replied. they are clearly self pitying and nearing the point in their depression where they’ve learned to rely on everyone else so they give up on themselves. it doesn’t make them a bad person but it’s something to work on. idk

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Anonymous #4 5d

This is all I was asking for. Someone that understood. Thank you, I appreciate it a lot.

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Anonymous #2 5d

A lot of mental illness like depression is chemical imbalance and something that can’t just be controlled by thoughts. Also a support system is literally a SYSTEM of SOCIAL SUPPORT! You’re being an asshole for no reason. Some people have struggles, be a decent fucking person. ffs

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Anonymous #5 5d

a support system is not inherently social. people are meant to rely on themselves as well as other people. you’re antagonizing me when we both want to help the original poster. calling me an asshole for having a different perspective is childish and unproductive

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Anonymous #5 5d

if you don’t understand how behavioral patterns greatly impact depression & other mental illness then you do not understand how mental illness operates. coddling a patient is more dangerous than it is helpful, because being sick forever is not an option

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Anonymous #2 5d

You misunderstand that I would just like a friend that could help me through this. I’m not asking for a cure-all, I would, just like #5 said, want a support system.

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Anonymous OP 5d

i don’t know how many times i can say this 😭 as long as you are waiting for someone to come into your life and help fix you, you are not going to get better. a support system needs to start with you

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Anonymous #2 5d

Genuinely are you even reading what I say

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Anonymous OP 5d

are you reading what i’m saying. you said: “a friend that could help me through all this”. i said: “someone to come into your life and help you get better”. you’re texting multiple people at a time for mental support and complaining on yikyak when they don’t reply. that’s an issue

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Anonymous OP 5d

i never said you were searching for a cure-all. i said you were searching for people to help you instead of searching for ways to help yourself. that’s exactly what you keep describing

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Anonymous #6 5d

Thank you:)

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Anonymous #7 5d

Thank you, I’m glad you see where I’m coming from :)

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Anonymous #2 5d

me when im a shitty friend

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Anonymous #2 5d

youre such an asshole. if a support system isnt social then what the hell is it? last time i checked you have to reach out to get help. go suck a fat one

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Anonymous #2 5d

You’re a terrible friend if that’s how you treat people.

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