Anonymous #2 2w

I don’t think that’s really true. You’re just looking at the wrong people.

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Anonymous #4 2w

Unfortunately that’s how it normally goes. I just wanna have a horror movie marathon without the expectation to fuck.

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Anonymous #3 2w

Could be but most women expect a man to pay for their time like they are more important than

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Anonymous #1 2w

this is so cute i need it

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Anonymous #7 2w

That’s so cute!! I love going for rides, just listening to music and spending time w each other

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Anonymous #2 2w

Lol that ain’t true, especially if you’re in college

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Anonymous #8 2w

Sometimes it’s true, but women aren’t a monolith. My gf and I do pretty cheap things together. On our second date we went out to dinner and I covered the whole thing, since then we split it all pretty much. And we often prefer to cook together at home, have a wine night and dance in the living room, walk her dog together, watch a movie, wtc

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Anonymous #8 2w

And honestly I was just willing to spend the money early on because I saw something in her, and I guess I was right lol. I never cover the whole date if I don’t see it going anywhere

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Anonymous #3 2w

I recommend asking other men for their opinions also. Very few women are like the one who started this thread!

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Anonymous OP 2w

Fr id rather watch Netflix and chill than “Netflix and chill”. I just wanna binge watch some great British baking show with someone fr

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Anonymous #10 2w

No soggy bottoms in more ways than one

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Anonymous OP 2w

You win at comments today

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Anonymous #10 2w

Heheheh I’m actually hilarious idk what else to say

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Anonymous #11 2w

This is aimed at my ex boyfriend specifically. Refused to take me on dates bc he “didn’t have the time” or “it was too expensive”. I’m also autistic so I don’t do subtlety. If you don’t wanna go on a date be upfront, because making an excuse rather than saying it upfront is a bitch ass move.

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Anonymous #2 2w

I mean I will agree that early on when you start dating someone almost nobody will be open to taking a walk or staying in for a movie, but also it doesn’t always have to be something super fancy or expensive. On my first date with my gf we went to a museum that we could get in for free with our student IDs, and it was actually her idea

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Anonymous OP 2w

i am also formally diagnosed with autism, but i don’t expect people to change social customs to accommodate me— i put in the work to ask my therapist or neurotypical friends/family what people could have meant if i have any doubts. calling someone a “bitch ass” for following social customs instead of accepting that your relationship just didn’t work out for reasons that couldn’t be helped is very emotionally immature even for someone with special needs

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Anonymous #11 2w

Or they could be upfront and just say they don’t wanna go on another date. If you give an excuse, “we can’t do that right now, because I don’t have the money” I’m gonna assume that you still wanna go on a date, you just don’t have the money. If you say “I’m not interested in going out” then I’ll know you don’t wanna go out. It’s not exactly breaking societal norm to think that, esp if you think this person is into you.

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Anonymous #11 2w

I’m not autistic and I can tell you saying you can’t go on a date with them because you “can’t afford it” isn’t a social custom. It’s passive aggressive, avoidant behavior and rude. Letting someone down gently would just be telling them you weren’t feeling a spark or aren’t in the headspace to date.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yeah cause people are so upfront nowadays. I’m also autistic and have found people don’t handle the honest truth well. Your crash out is further evidence of that.

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Anonymous #5 2w

Someone lies to Op. Op gets frustrated about the lying and then people use the fact they’re mad to justify the lie… interesting

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Anonymous #9 2w

It’s ok to be upset about lying. I’m saying from my experience most if not all people don’t handle the brutal honest truth well. Myself included. I’m not trying to justify it I’m saying sometimes people lie to avoid conflict

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Anonymous #5 2w

I would agree with that IF you hadn’t included Op expressing their frustration as justifying why they shouldn’t have been told the truth. In reality they WANTED the truth and they’re literally doing the opposite of what you’re saying. If anything this is a good example of how sometimes avoiding conflict just creates more confusion/conflict

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Anonymous #5 2w

Crashing out = having a mental breakdown/spiral and being erratic. It is not calling someone a liar for lying, pointing out why the lie made things more difficult, and saying they’d rather have been told to truth to avoid confusion. That’s the specific part of your comment that I’m disagreeing with.

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Anonymous #9 2w

Ok fine my bad I’ve heard that term used so loosely it’s lost meaning

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Anonymous #8 2w

i wish i could have done this but i fucked it up 😔

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Anonymous #15 2w

Your time will come

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